refactor npu device manager (#31154)

* support npu allocator

* add npu device context

* fix some compile problem

* fix some compile problem

* add npu info

* compile ok

* fix include dir

* support naive_best_fit_allocator

* run ut ok, bug failed to exit

* call aclrtResetDevice before exit

* fix aclFinilize

* add system allocatot test

* add selected_gpus in gtest

* add tensor_test for npu

* support npu op, initial commit

* add npu stream

* add elementwise_add_op

* compile ok

* fix typo

* fix elementwise_add_op_npu_test

* support op run

* test can run but failed

* change aclopExecuteV2 to aclopCompileAndExecute

[feature] support npu allocator