* nccl init support hostname and ip; test=develop

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

支持不依赖nccl进行编译。[1/2]

多卡下，如果没有打开WITH_NCCL开关编译，多卡不能通信，则只能选择一张卡使用。
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

* refactor dygraph,test=develop

* fix failed unittest,test=develop

* polish code,test=develop

* check windows ci error,test=develop
try to fix windows ci error by np.allclose,test=develop

* polish vlog and profiler, test=develop

* try to fix preceding ops order,test=develop

* test transformer in windows ci, test=develop

* use python c-api to speed up tracer.trace,test=develop

* test=develop, fix docker with paddle nccl problem

* test=develop, add ut for debug string and gradient_accumulator

* test=develop, add tests for layer/gradient_accumulator/prepared_op

* test=develop, fix complie error for test_prepared_op

* test=develop, add more ut for dygraph

* test=develop, create API.spec for dygraph api change

* test=develop, refoctor name to make it easier to understand

* test=develop, refoctor name to make it easier to understand

* test=develop, fix multi-gpu failed problem , add Tracer tests, change PADDLEENFORCE to PADDLEENFORCE_EQ

* test=develop, fix ut failed on parallel se-resnext

* test=develop, change one more PADDLE_ENFORCE

add NCCLParallelContext for parallel dygraph