* 裁剪transformer模型trt支持；修复tensorRT不支持DeletePass的bug (#28517)

* skip_layernorm_op done

* add unittest

* slice op convertor support trt < 6

* skip_layernorm only work in ernie

* fix unittest

* fix unittest

* fix multihead matmul shared params (#27121)

* fix multihead matmul shared params

* fix multhead matmul's instable
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* fix multihead matmul bug
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* fix converage problem
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Co-authored-by: NZhaolong Xing <nhzlx.dragon@gmail.com>

* 1. optim multihead matmul: fuse three fc to multihtead matmul

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* fix conflict
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* fix comments
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* Add multihead fuse pass for ernie opt

* Refine softmax

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* Refine cuda kernel

* Refine cuda version

* Refine cmake

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* refine header file

* refine test case and pass
* refine comments