* Optimization grad merge performance (#29784)

* [fleet] combine amp and gradient merge, test=develop (#30086)

* fix assign_op_xpu concat_op_xpu warining (#30120)
Co-authored-by: Nliuyuhui <liuyuhui@baidu.com>

* add deformable_conv op on xpu (#29234)

* rebase develop

* update deformable_conv op on xpu

* update deformable_conv op on xpu

* update kunlun conv2d/softmax/elementwise implemetation (#29229)

* update conv2d & softmax to new xpu api
* test=kunlun

* remove useless comments
* test=kunlun

* remote softmax xpu op
* test=kunlun

* update kunlun softmax
* test=kunlun

* update xpu unitest
* test=kunlun

* fix elementwise_grad bug for kunlun
*test=kunlun

* support global pooling for kunlun (#29293)

* test=kunlun

* update reduce_sum op on xpu (#29367)

* update reduce_sum op on xpu

* update reduce_sum op on xpu

* support running on xpu

* fix expand/uniform_random && concat/transpose to new api on xpu (#29280)

* fix expand && concat/transpose to new api

* update uniform_random_op

* update xpu_header

* 1. fix elementwise ops'bug 2. fix softmax_with_cross_entropy_op 3. add biliner_interp_op (#29448)
Co-authored-by: Nroot <root@bjhw-sys-rpm0223.bjhw.baidu.com>
Co-authored-by: N卖鱼的哲学 <tangzhiyi11@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: NQingshuChen <qingshu.chen714@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Ntaixiurong <taixiurong@126.com>
Co-authored-by: Nroot <root@bjhw-sys-rpm0223.bjhw.baidu.com>

* addd

* add cast_op_xpu, test=kunlun

* fix bug for cast_op_xpu,test=kunlun

* add concat_op_xpu, test=kunlun

* slove conflicts, test=kunlun

* fix bug,test=kunlun

* add assign_op_xpu, test=kunlun

* fix bug,test=kunlun

* test=kunlun;test=develop

* fix concat bug,test=kunlun

* fix check_dygraph set in test_concat_op_xpu.py,test=kunlun

* fix error message,test=kunlun
Co-authored-by: Nmapingshuo <mps2012@yeah.net>