Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server (API add `fluid.contrib.layers.sparse_embedding` only) (#22957)

* Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server

* add retry for prefetch

* Revert "Fix/sync barrier (#25016)"

This reverts commit be6a315f.

* reopen dist UT, test=develop

* remove fl UT, test=develop

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* test=develop

* fix bug

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* test=develop

* fix sync barrier with barrier monitor, test=develop

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add executor.FetchHandler for train/infer from the dataset

Heartbeat for distributed async training.

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* fix mac cmake version 3.13 test=develop

* fix again test=develop

* Revert the modification of while_op in #14764.
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* Remove the dependency of GRPC_DEPS.
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* Simplify the compare op for CPU.

* Use asynchronous tensor copy in reshape_op's kernel.

* Optimize while_op for test, avoiding creating variables every time.
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* Enable the cache of kernel type and kernel function.
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* Enable profiling with gperftools.

* Remove flags for testing, and fix the linking error.
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* Delete the codes of ChooseKernel.
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* Fix bug when preparing ExecutorPrepareContext for while_op.

* Fix missing depending on grpc libraries.

* Remove the redundant print.
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* Follow comments.

* Remove the codes related to prepare the ExecutorPrepareContext for while_op.
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* wip

* wip

* refactor no.1 dir structure test=develop

* fix linking test=develop

* fix includes test=develop

* fix build test=develop

* fix build test=develop

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Add rpc timeline

* refine regularization for selected_rows

* clean lookup_table

* refine rpc_server_test

* temporally disable rpc_server_test

* fix rpc_server_test

* add unit test

* move to platform

* "move init from framework to platform"

* "remove used init"

* "fix ci"

* "fix ci"

* "fix generic"

* "fix ci"

* "fix ci"

* "fix ci"

* "disable fragile test"