[Kunlun]Multi xpu dygraph performance optimization , add distributed.spawn support for multi xpu and some bug-fixes (#31130)

* polish Program api doc & example

* polish CompiledProgram api doc & example

* polish ParallelEnv api doc & examples

* polish details, test=document_fix

* polish program doc details, test=document_fix

* polish details, test=document_fix

* fix note format error, test=document_fix

* add lost example, test=document_fix

* fix lost example, test=document_fix

* test=develop, test=document_fix

* test=develop, test=document_fix
Co-authored-by: Nswtkiwi <1208425345@qq.com>

* api compild program error polish, test=develop

* fix coverage problem, test=develop

* fix details & add unittests, test=develop

* add test for coverage, test=develop

* fix compiled program sample code error, test=develop, test=document_fix

* remove cn code in doc, test=develop, test=document_fix

* add NotImplementedError for multi optimizers used on multi-places . test=develop

* assert error only if num_devices>1. test=develop

* set test_optimizer_in_control_flow in CMakeLists for using multi-GPU.test=develop

* fix fluid.data
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* fix doc batch dim
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* polish executor doc
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* use PE for compiler
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* remove compile from PE
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* first version memory optimize pass, test=develop

* remove move_tensor_sharing_pass, test=develop

* refine code comments, add unittests, test=develop

* turn off memory_optimize by default, test=develop

* follow huihuang's comments, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments, test=develop

* fix grammar error, add const qualifier, fix pass_test exception message, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments 2nd, test=develop

* feature/buffer_shared_inplace, test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* fix elementwise_add op cpu inplace and sum inplace bug, test=develop

* add unittest and debug log, test=develop

* fix parallel_executor scope bug, polish code, test=develop

* fix sum op, activation op, single_in_place_inference bug, test=develop

* remove kLocalExecScopeName, test=develop

* fix unittest,test=develop

* fix out_var first version bug, test=develop

* follow comments,test=develop

* update pe reduce config
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*  drop the local_exe_scopes of the previous parallel_executor
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* Add auto pruning strategy.
1. Fix compressor.
2. Enhence graph executor.
3. Add SAController
4. Add auto pruning strategy.
5. Add unitest for auto pruning strategy.
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* Init light-nas

* Add light nas.

* Some fix.
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* Fix sa controller.
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* Fix unitest of light nas.
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* Fix setup.py.in and API.spec.
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* Fix unitest.
1. Fix unitest on windows.
2. Fix package importing in tests directory.

* 1. Remove unused comments.
2. Expose eval_epoch option.
3. Remove unused function in search_agent.
4. Expose max_client_num to yaml file.
5. Move flops constraint to on_epoch_begin function
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* Fix light nas strategy.
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* Make controller server stable.
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* 1. Add try exception to compressor.
2. Remove unitest of light-nas for windows.
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* Add comments
Enhence controller
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* Fix comments.
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* polish doc
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* updata parallel executor doc
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* update API.spec
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* polish code
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* speedup gc and inplace softmax_with_cross_entropy_grad
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* refine models gpu mem
Merge skip vars and warning messages of mem opt
remove relu mem opt
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* follow comments
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* Support Sync Batch Norm.
* Note, do not enable it in one device.

Usage:

build_strategy = fluid.BuildStrategy()
build_strategy.sync_batch_norm = True
binary = fluid.compiler.CompiledProgram(tp).with_data_parallel(
        loss_name=loss_mean.name,
        build_strategy=build_strategy)

* fix broadcast with mp mode

* polish code test=develop

* fix bcast strategy test=develop

* fic cpplint test=develop

* fix py3 failed test=develop

* fix comment test=develop

* update comment test=develop

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* add ir memory optimize test case for IfElse op, test=develop

* fix some unitttest failure by force using the python memory_optimize, test=develop

* tweak comments, test=develop

* fix unittest, test=develop

* fix unittest, test=develop

* add ir memory optimize test case for IfElse op, test=develop

* fix some unitttest failure by force using the python memory_optimize, test=develop

* tweak comments, test=develop

* fix unittest, test=develop

* fix unittest, test=develop

* Unified ParallelExecutor and Compiler

* Unified ParallelExecutor and Compiler

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