* [CPU-PSLIB] Fix bug for consistency insepection of op's embedding name and sparse table name in config_fleet.py (#34441)

* [CPU-PSLIB] Add config for scale_sparse_grad in config_fleet.py

cherry-pick fix cvm check
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* add fleet pslib pull and push sparse op and push dense op
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支持不依赖nccl进行编译。[1/2]

多卡下，如果没有打开WITH_NCCL开关编译，多卡不能通信，则只能选择一张卡使用。
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* add half_async in the communicator
* fix DistributedStrategy

* fix compiled error of butil when with_pslib=on and with_testing=on
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* general table

* add sparse table
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* no cvm
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* add no_cvm
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* add note
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* add key of optimizer
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* copy some feasigns and corresponding embeddings from one sparse table to another
* copy all feasigns and corresponding embeddings from one sparse table to another
* copy all dense params from one table to another
* copy some local vars to other local vars

* support dump param to afs
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* no longer need to define all embedding layers (no one less) of all slots in each program. make trainer_param repeated in ps.proto.
* add find_distributed_lookup_table_grads instead of hard code GRAD
* support embedding stop gradient. push sparse has error before fix this.* 
* fix fill sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding. each slot's embedding in a sparse table should be used in all training programs before fix this.
* fix pull sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* fix collect feasign label info, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* support when there are multi sparse tables in one or multi training programs, each program can pull/push its own related sparse tables instead of all sparse tables.
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* add check nan / inf in downpour worker during training
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fix memory leak in HogwildWorker,  whose ops are  explicitly deleted in destructor

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* add delete after unseen days

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* support debug tensor of each ins
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* support debug tensor of each ins
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* add a place field in DataFeed to denote which place it will feed data to.
* abstract the copy process in CopyToFeedTensor function
* add UT for float32 type and for CUDAPlace

adjust ins weight according to nid slot , user can specify adjust_ins_weight in strategy

Fix FleetWrapper:
1. fix shrink dense: just scale show
2. add datanorm scale: divide datanorm's gradient by batch_size

The change includes 2 things:

1. save delta model and shrink table are control by the same parameter before, now add delete_after_unseen_days to control shrink table.
2. value in sparse table has no slot before, now add slot in sparse table, and add DownpureCtrAccessor to support the new meta.
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fix data feed ptr runtime error, pipeline trainer will core in some cases, so set it nullptr as default value.

(1) use channel instead of vector/BlockingQueue in Dataset，to keep same with existing implementation, and make code more readable and flexible (dataset single output channel or multi output channel). one previous memory out of limit problem is cause by not release memory after training.
(2) add Record because MultiSlotType costs too much memory (80B)，fix memory out of limit problem.
(3) add Channel, Archive in paddle/fluid/framework
(4) change dataset from shared_ptr to unique_ptr in pybind
(5) move create/destroy readers from trainer to dataset
(6) move shuffle from datafeed to dataset. dataset holds memory, datafeed is only for load data and feed data to network.
(7) fix thread num bug of Dataset when filelist size < thread num
(8) support set_queue_num in InMemoryDataset

Add Pipeline Concurrency Train Mode:
- Cpp: pipeline_trainer & section_worker
- Python: PipelineOptimizer
- Add a new data_feed type: PrivateInstantDataFeed
- Add a test demo of pipeline trainer and the test model is gnn
- Do not support win32 now

* add save/load model, shrink table, cvm, config file & fix pull dense bug
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* fix global shuffle bug, fix pull dense bug, fix release memeory bug, fix shrink error
add client flush, add get data size
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* fix global shuffle bug
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* fix global shuffle bug
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* fix code style
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* fix code style & modify pslib cmake
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* fix error of _role_maker
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* fix windows compile error of fleet
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* fix global shuffle bug

* add comment
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* update pslib.cmake
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* fix fill sparse bug
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* fix push sparse bug
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add dist_multi_trainer for distributed training, add trainer_factory and device_worker_factory so that we can easily extend new training mode, add pull dense worker which is a singleton for parameter fetching