[cherry-pick] #22384 and #22371

22384增加了WITH_NCCL开关

22371修改了fluid依赖lite的commit id

* add collective communication library in fleet to replace mpi
* test=develop

* [cherry-pick] fluid-lite subgraph resnet50 test. test=develop test=release/1.7

* modify lite commit id. test=develop test=release/1.7

[cherry-pick] faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11(#22230)

[cherry-pick] #22191
- 添加了fluid-lite子图方式运行resnet的单测
- 修改了依赖Lite的git commit id

tweak the interface of cache_third_party function - expose the SOURCE_DIR for each external library (#21899)

* Fix openblas to support compile on Windows when WITH_MKL=OFF

* MKLDNN v1.0 rebase to Paddle 1.6
test=develop

* Add hacky paddle::string::to_string() implementation

* vectorize<int64-t>() -> vectorize() cleanup
test=develop

* PADDLE_ENFORCE and void_cast fixes
test=develop

* Rebase changes
test=develop

* Cosmetics
test=develop

* Delete MKL from mkldnn.cmake
test=develop

* CMake debug commands
test=develop

* Delete MKLDNN_VERBOSE and rebase fixes
test=develop

* Rebase fixes
test=develop

* Temporarily disable int8 resnet101 vgg16 and vgg19 tests
test=develop

* Add libmkldnn.so.1 to python setup
test=develop

* Add libmkldnn.so.1 to inference_lib cmake after rebase
test=develop

* Post rebase fixes + FC int8 changes
test=develop

* Fix LRN NHWC
test=develop

* Fix NHWC conv3d
test=develop

* Windows build fix + next conv3d fix
test=develop

* Fix conv2d on AVX2 machines
test=develop

* modify the repo address of eigen and warpctc

* fix the eigen not work on windows

* fix the eigen and warpctc can't recompile

test=develop

* make Docker to gcc 8.2, test=develop

* add -std=c11 to grpc.cmake, test=develop

test=develop

* add support to gcc8, add docker env test=develop

* add dgc.tgz to bos

* test=develop, Support for online compilation of openblas

* test=develop, Modify the prefix of openblas static library

* Support looking up embeddings from BoxPS.
* Add a _pull_box_sparse op, for now this op is not exposed to users.
* Add a BoxHelper class, providing 'BeginPass', 'EndPass', 'FeedPass' functions and so on.
* Add 'BoxPSDataset' in python code.
* Add a compile options WITH_BOX_PS and a MACRO PADDLE_WITH_BOX_PS.
* Add UT.
* More concrete information pls refer to: https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/18982

* Implement the operator with sprase matrix multiply

* Update the URL of mklml library.

test=develop

* Disable MKLML implematation when using no-linux.

test=develop

* Ignore the deprecated status for windows

test=develop

* fix compilation issue in windows vs2017, test=develop

* fix gtest lib not found issue, test=develop