faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11 (#22164)

* add collective communication library in fleet to replace mpi
* test=develop

- fluid和lite精度比较替换为相对误差

* test=develop, bug fix for sparse recorder

* polish error message of parallel executor, test=develop

* change PADDLE_ENFORCE, test=develop

- 添加了fluid-lite子图方式运行resnet的单测
- 修改了依赖Lite的git commit id

* fix the bug of profile update test=develop

* add backward gradient computation for op argsort test=developo

* use pre-commit test=develop

* add bn and relu fuse pass

* add op attr assert and dtype assert

* fix some inputs&&outputs bugs for the fused op and pattern.

* add the unittest for fuse_bn_act_pass. test=develop

* use normative enforce statements. test=develop

* add the cpu test. test=develop

* add the support of batch_size=1 for the bn with relu op. test=develop

* add the error type for paddle throws. test=develop

* add fused_batch_norm_act and fused_batch_norm_act_grad to op_has_unsed_vars_white_list. test=develop

* test Optimizer in dygraph, test=develop

* add optest for Optimizer in dygraph, test=develop

* fix adagrad optimizer, test=develop

* fix dpsgd optimizer, test=develop

* fix test_optimizer.py, test=develop

* fix dpsgd optimizer, this op only support cpu, test=develop

* add optest for optimizer, test=develop

* add description for dpsgd, test=develop

* add rmsprop to white_list in unused_var_check.cc, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

* delete seed attribute for DpsgdOptimizer, test=develop

* change testing to debugging, test=develop

* Polish the PADDLE_ENFORCE in fusion_group pass related codes.
test=develop

* Correct the unittest because of the change relu_grad's formula.
test=develop

* add support for nested profiling event and printing in different level

stack's wait cost a lot of cpu time, use cuda kernel to do memory copy
will reduce cpu time.
Signed-off-by: Nzhaoyuchen <zhaoyuchen01@baidu.com>

* modify fc to linear in sample code, test=develop

* remove FC, test=develop

* remove warnings, test=develop

* drop fluid/imperative/README.md , test=develop

* change fc to linear, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

1. Add a new input named batch_roi_nums for prroi_pool_op. batch_roi_nums includes the number of roi for each image in batch when rois is Tensor. This information is saved in rois's lod when rois is LoDTensor.
2. add grad check to prroi_pool_op and solve unnormal X grad diff in CPU.

* fix sample code, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

test=develop

* add TRT support for instance_norm op

windows conv_fusion failed as no kernel， explicit declare lambda
Signed-off-by: Nzhaoyuchen <zhaoyuchen01@baidu.com>

* add special way to add distribute vars， Update Pyramid hash op

* add erf op and python interface.

* add fp16 support for erf op.

* add unitests for erf op and its python interface.

* support elu activation double grad,test=develop

* delete the code commit in .cc,test=develop

* fix relu test unpass, test=develop

* add elu double grad kernel and unit test

* add caculate dX in elu double grad functor, test=develop

* update the commit code,test=develop

* add gelu plugin

* align trt bert with gpu

* add support for fused fc with relu,

* add unittest for bert trt