* Layer norm fp16 (#29169)

* add fp16 for layer_norm op

* revert layernorm api

* fix forward

* fix forward

* fix backward for layernorm with fp16

* fix unit test for layernorm with fp16

* fix with_mkldnn compile error for layernorm with fp16

* 1. revert to PADDLE_ENFORCE_NOT_NULL, 2. change static_cast<float> to static_cast<U>

* fix with_mkldnn compile error for layernorm with fp16

* fix with_mkldnn compile error for layernorm with fp16
Co-authored-by: Nzhiqiu <chenqiuliang@baidu.com>

* fix layer_norm accuracy (#29434)

* Layernorm opt (#29522)

* layernorm fw opt

* layernorm bw opt

* fix typo, test=develop

* remove const dim3 for windows CI compatibility

* merge develop
Co-authored-by: Nzlsh80826 <zlsh80826@gmail.com>

* Fix compile problem when cuda_arch < 6000 (#29576)

* fix compile problem when cuda_arch < 6000

* refine code

* refine code
Co-authored-by: Nzhiqiu <chenqiuliang@baidu.com>
Co-authored-by: Nzlsh80826 <zlsh80826@gmail.com>

* API/OP (group_norm, layer_norm, unpool) error message enhancement test=develop

restrict block num of layer_norm_grad cuda kernel to 128, test=develop

* add gelu plugin

* align trt bert with gpu

* add support for fused fc with relu,

* add unittest for bert trt