[cherry-pick] #22384 and #22371

22384增加了WITH_NCCL开关

22371修改了fluid依赖lite的commit id

* add GeneralRoleMaker which is for general usage
* test=develop

* fix copy table bug (#22432)

* fix copy table bug of lost some feasign
* test=develop

* add hdfs ls retry time and sleep time, fix save inference (#22433)

* add hdfs ls retry time and sleep time, fix save inference
* test=develop

* add collective communication library in fleet to replace mpi
* test=develop

test=release/1.7

* Enable quantize to reorder to nchw as well

* Correct FC MKL-DNN input dim requirements to accept 3D

* Improve DNNL FC format, error and 3D input handling

* Improve error checking in FC

* Improve PADDLE_ENFORCE messages in fc-related files

* Remove data layout attribute from obligatory pass args

* Fix message in fc_mkldnn_pass to be logically correct

* add half_async in the communicator
* fix DistributedStrategy

[cherry-pick] faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11(#22230)

* test Optimizer in dygraph, test=develop

* add optest for Optimizer in dygraph, test=develop

* fix adagrad optimizer, test=develop

* fix dpsgd optimizer, test=develop

* fix test_optimizer.py, test=develop

* fix dpsgd optimizer, this op only support cpu, test=develop

* add optest for optimizer, test=develop

* add description for dpsgd, test=develop

* add rmsprop to white_list in unused_var_check.cc, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

* delete seed attribute for DpsgdOptimizer, test=develop

* change testing to debugging, test=develop

* Polish the PADDLE_ENFORCE in fusion_group pass related codes.
test=develop

* Correct the unittest because of the change relu_grad's formula.
test=develop

* add support for nested profiling event and printing in different level

test=develop

* Add the dynamic load of nvrtc, and support runtime compiling of CUDA kernel using nvrtc.
test=develop

* Call CUDA driver api to launch the kernel compiled by nvrtc.
test=develop

* Disable for mac and windows.
test=develop

* Refine the codes to support manually specified num_threads and workload_per_thread.
test=develop

* Refine the CUDA kernel to support large dims.
test=develop

* Add DeviceCodePool to manage all device codes.

* Add the first implementation fusion_group op.

* Add unit-test for fusion_group op.

* Add the check of result.

* Add the check of nvrtc in unit-test.
test=develop

* Add comment to explain the inputs, outputs and features of fusion_group op.
test=develop

* Disable fusion_group op for mac and windows.
test=develop

* Make the compiling of device code return status instead of hanging up.
test=develop

* Add the check of whether there is CUDA driver library, and do not core dump when failing to call the CUDA driver API.

* Unify fusion_group_op's input and output names.
test=develop

* Add the check of CUDA driver library in unittest.
test=develop

* Refine the calling of PADDLE_ENFORCE.
test=develop

* fix seqconv_eltadd_relu pass during multi-threads predictor, test=develop

* fix attention_lstm_fuse_pass during multi-threads inference, test=develop

* fix embedding_fc_lstm_fuse_pass during multi-threads inference, test=develop

* fix fc_lstm_fuse_pass during multi-threads inference, test=develop

* fix seq_concat_fc_fuse_pass during multi-threads inference, test=develop

* fix multi-thread error of fc_gru_fuse_pass.cc, test=develop

* export FLAGS and GLOG symbols, test=develop

* Pack imperative/layer into paddle_framework.so

* optimize adam speed by removing _finish_update test=develop

* fix SparseAdamFunctor param list test=develop

* Remove scale_op in expect_list of adam_op test=develop

* fix test optimizer loss assert error test=develop

* fix test optimizer loss assert error test=develop

* modify PADDLE_ENFORCE usage test=develop

* fix op_type in lamb_op.cc test=develop

* fix errors ostream format bug test=develop

* add betaPowOut in ngraph op test=develop

* fix ngraph::op api for gcc8 test=develop

* clean code test=develop

* modify struct into class test=develop

* remove code of beta1Tensor in lamb_op test=develop

* general table

* add sparse table
test=develop

* no cvm
test=develop

* add no_cvm
test=develop

* add note
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* add key of optimizer
test=develop

* solve pslib stop core
test=develop

* barrier
test=develop

* add notes
test=develop

* add table id in cache shuffle
test=develop

* table id
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

The fixed bugs:

1. The condition sub-graph is not pruned
2. When backward graph is extremely simple, the whole backward ops are pruned.

* fix compiled error of butil when with_pslib=on and with_testing=on
* test=develop

* fc-dequantize squash
test=develop

* change according to reviews
test=develop

* change PADDLE_ENFORCE
test=develop

* add second test when fc-dequant do not fuse
test=develop

* change all related PADDLE_ENFORCE
test=develop

* Add reshape int8 op

test=develop

* Change test to CPUPlace

test=develop

* Correct tests

test=develop

* add fake init for the trainer, fix large memory hold in the trainer
* do not merge recv vars from a remote endpoint, test=develop
* add recv and save op, merge slice var in one op, save memory
* remove hsigmoid with pull sparse, test=develop