Support backward of backward for Relu and add a new gradient checker by comparing theoretical and numerical Jacobian. (#16862)

* Support backward of backward and a new gradient checker
* Rename decorators.py to decorator_helper.py, since Python on Windows CI has decorators package.

1. Add ReluDoubleGradMaker when register relu_grad.
2. Add a new gradient checker by comparing theoretical and numerical Jacobian.  Check double gradients by double_grad_check.

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* add fp16 backward support
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* add sum_op fp16 test

* disable test_dist_save_load
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* add check_grad for sum

* add unit test for softmax_grad fp16
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* add scale_op unit test

* add mul_grad_op unit test for fp16

* add cross_entropy_grad and eman_grad unit test for fp16
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* fix cross_entropy unit test

* add pool2d fp16 unit test

* refine conv2d fp16 unit test
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* refine activation unit test
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* fix ci
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* follow zhihong's comment, copy from https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/12796
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This reverts commit bf3c3496.

* "cherry picked operators changes"

* "remove duplicated code"

* "add constant setter"

* "add get expected kernel"

* "fix ci"

* "add fill constant"

There are mainly following fixes:

- take `DeviceContext` as the template parameter of math functors and OpKernel instead of `Place`
- remove `eigen_device` interface in base class  `DeviceContext`
- remove `GetEigenDevice` interface in `ExecutionContext` and base class `DeviceContext`
- remove unused `platform::EigenDeviceConverter`
- rename `REGISTER_OP_GPU_KERNEL` to `REGISTER_OP_CUDA_KERNEL`
- rename `USE_GPU_ONLY_OP` to `USE_CUDA_ONLY_OP`

* Simplize Gradient Check

* Stash

* Extract apply_backward_pass to backward.py

Rename apply_backward_pass to append_backward_ops

* Use graph API to check gradient

* Fix ci

* Fix CI

* Fix backward for double precision

* Stash

* Fix CI

* Fix ci

* Ignore GRU test

* Ignore xe op

* Fix CI

* Fix softmax with xe gradient

The correct equation should be IG = OG * (d_softmax_with_xe())

* Fix typo

* Fix merge error

* Disable LRN

Make implement an operator less noisy.

* Implement InferShape and register them, give a stub Kernel method
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