fix bug that sourcecode of third_party can't be cached correctly,and add cache for xbyak and openblas (#22772)

* add collective communication library in fleet to replace mpi
* test=develop

tweak the interface of cache_third_party function - expose the SOURCE_DIR for each external library (#21899)

* test=develop, fix docker with paddle nccl problem

* don't expose numerous Tensor.set(), test=develop

* fix condition, test=develop

* fix float16 bug, test=develop

* feed should be Tensor or np.array, not Variable or number, test=develop

* use forcecast to copy numpy slice to new array, test=develop

* remove float16-uint16 hacking, test=develop

* add variable method to varbase and refactor to_variable to support return varbase

* support kwargs in varbase constructor

* add VarBase constructor to support default python args

* refine varbase initial method

* reset branch

* fix ut for change VarBase error info to PaddleEnforce

* cherry is parameter change before

* overload isinstance to replace too many change of is_variable

* rm useless files

* rm useless code merged by git

* test=develop, fix some ut failed error

* test=develop, fix test_graph_wrapper

* add some tests, test=develop

* refine __getitem__, test=develop

* add tests, test=develop

* fix err_msg, test=develop

fix bug when build openblas with a computer that has installed openblas before,test=develop (#21160)

test=develop