* XPUPS Adaptation (#40991)

* Adapt XPUPS - 1st version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - update XPU PushSparse -  2nd version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - add XPU PullSparseOp - 3nd version - 3.25

* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by compilation - 4th version - 3.27

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* heter_comm update

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* Adapt XPUPS - use WITH_XPU_KP and modify wrapper kernel function - 5th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update pslib.cmake

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 6th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* used by minxu

* update heter_comm_inl

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 7th version - 3.30

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 3.31 update

* Adapt XPUPS - update kp compilation path  - 8th version - 3.31

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm.h 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 9th version - 4.1

* update hashtable. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 10th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1 19:30

* fix. test=develop

* update ps_gpu_wrapper.kps 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 11th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 12nd version - 4.2

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.2

* 4.2 update

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* update 4.6

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* 4.6 modify by compilation

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 13nd version - 4.7

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* update by pre-commit

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.12 update

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 14th version - 4.13

* 4.13 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 modify by merged latest compilation

* retry CI 4.14

* 4.15 pass static check

* 4.15 modify by gpups CI

* 3.16 update by gpups CI - modify ps_gpu_wrapper.h

* 4.16 update

* 4.16 pass xpu compile

* 4.16 retry CI

* 4.16 update
Co-authored-by: Nzmxdream <zhangminxu01@baidu.com>

* modify ps_gpu_wrapper.cc

* update

* Adapt BKCL comm for XPUPS (#42168)

* Adapt XPUPS - 1st version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - update XPU PushSparse -  2nd version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - add XPU PullSparseOp - 3nd version - 3.25

* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by compilation - 4th version - 3.27

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* heter_comm update

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* Adapt XPUPS - use WITH_XPU_KP and modify wrapper kernel function - 5th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update pslib.cmake

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 6th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* used by minxu

* update heter_comm_inl

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 7th version - 3.30

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 3.31 update

* Adapt XPUPS - update kp compilation path  - 8th version - 3.31

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm.h 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 9th version - 4.1

* update hashtable. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 10th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1 19:30

* fix. test=develop

* update ps_gpu_wrapper.kps 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 11th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 12nd version - 4.2

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.2

* 4.2 update

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* update 4.6

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* 4.6 modify by compilation

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 13nd version - 4.7

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* update by pre-commit

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.12 update

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 14th version - 4.13

* 4.13 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 modify by merged latest compilation

* retry CI 4.14

* 4.15 pass static check

* 4.15 modify by gpups CI

* 3.16 update by gpups CI - modify ps_gpu_wrapper.h

* 4.16 update

* 4.16 pass xpu compile

* 4.16 retry CI

* 4.16 update

* Adapt XPUPS - adapt BKCL comm for XPUPS - 4.24

* update by compilation

* Adapt XPUPS - register PSGPUTrainer for XPUPS - 4.25

* update device_worker_factory
Co-authored-by: Nzmxdream <zhangminxu01@baidu.com>

* update

* update CMakeLists
Co-authored-by: Nzmxdream <zhangminxu01@baidu.com>

* add pten::Place data structure.

* update ci problem

* fix ci problem

* update

* using platform::Place=pten::Place

* remove BOOST_GET_CONST for CPUPlace and GPUPlace

* compile pass 25%.

* compile pass 45%

* compile pass 60%

* remove boost_get for xpu npu mlu and ipu

* compile pass on cpu and gpu.

* fix compile problem

* fix compile error.

* update

* fix ci problem

* update

* ci approve

* fix ci problem

* fix ci eager test problem

* remove BOOST_GET_CONST

* fix npu compile

[Kunlun]Multi xpu dygraph performance optimization , add distributed.spawn support for multi xpu and some bug-fixes (#31130)

* fix distributed error info

* bug fix; notest

* error info refine

* update error info

* update error info

* update error info

* bug fix

* bug fix

* bug fix

* bug fix

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* add the support for multi-node training

* add new macro BOOST_GET_SAFELY & unittests, test=develop

* add different macro type, test=develop

* fix get macro type in executor, test=develop

* four macro part change backup

* using one macro for all case, test=develop

* revert attribute change, test=develop

* change to three func to solve gcc4.8 bug, test=develop

* polish some details, test=develop

支持不依赖nccl进行编译。[1/2]

多卡下，如果没有打开WITH_NCCL开关编译，多卡不能通信，则只能选择一张卡使用。
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

1. Since allreduce op has 4 reduce types, We split these four reduce types into four ops
2. We also refined the collective op code, e.g. we separated the collective op kernel into CPUKernel and CUDAKernel, and remove the device specified DeviceContext parameter in template as we already knew the target DeviceContext
3. We remove the newly added Collective op role to reduce the complexity of program and graph analysis

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
test=develop

* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
test=develop

* fix comment
test=develop

* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
test=develop

* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
test=develop

* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* fix comment
test=develop

* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* test=develop
add collective op unittest standard

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* remove slicegather test

* code format for reducescatter

* update attr of shard_index_op

* Modify macro nccl_helper

* remove test without distribute

* macro collective_helper

* marcro update

* test=develop
update support python3.5

* test=develop change gpu memory use to 0.1 when test

* test=develop
update ut equal func

* test=develop
set flags to 1.5

* test=develop fix pickle dumple  py35

* test=develop
fix divide in slice and add sync_comm_stream
update atol and rtol to 1e-05
rm shard_index op and test
modify read input from file to read from memory
remove origin_program in framework and add i/o in c_sync_calc_stream

* test=develop update unittest sync operator I/O