Add new APIs for GPU memory monitoring (max_memory_allocated, max_memory_reserved, memory_allocated, memory_reserved) (#38657)

* Add new API memory_reserved

* Add memory_allocated, max_memory_reserved and max_memory_allocater

* Fix CI error

* Fix CI error

* Enhance UT

* Add FLAGS_memory_stats_opt

* Add STATS macro functions

* Add StatAllocator

* Fix CI errors

* Add UT

* Fix CI errors