* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix hashtable_kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop
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[XPUPS]add support for kunlun2
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