Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server (API add `fluid.contrib.layers.sparse_embedding` only) (#22957)

* Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server

* fix double grad visitid unit; test=develop

* change name hash_pair to HashPair; test=develop

* follow comment; test=develop

* Remove the output for moving_average_abs_max_scale op, test=develop

* refine strategy compiler and meta optimizers
make async as a_sync

* unified signal error format

* refine signal error message

* remove ProgramTranslator.save_inference_model

* adapt save_quantized_model

* revert buffer check implemention

* remove useless import function

* simplify buffered reader to improve DataLoader performance

* fix 22 failed unittests

* fix cuda pinned context condition

* fix test_reader_reset failed

* fix two failed unittests

* change unittest place

* polish error messaage

* polish cast op GetExpecctedKernelType

* remove debug info in unittest

* add more settings for distributed strategy
Basically, DistributedStrategy has several parts of configurations:
- BuildStrategy: the same as paddle.fluid.BuildStrategy, but the distributed arguments are moved out of BuildStrategy
- ExecutionStrategy: the same as paddle.fluid.ExecutionStrategy
- collective communication configs: nccl_comm_num, hierarchical allreduce and so on
- distributed algorithms: async_update(mainly used in PS), lars, lamb and so on

* polish framework error message part3

* polish details

* fix error message print error

* Added DNNL cache management for DyGraph

* move FLAGS_use_mkldnn to more general CMakeLists, getu use of the flag in ClearGradients

* missing file

* Fixes after review

* Bringing back original idea of place for 'use_mkldnn' flag to be accessible from platform nad imperative.

* Removed duplicate and added docs

* Fixes for CI

* fix the double grad bug for the star gan. test=develop

* update the retain_graph parameter doc. test=develop

* add the unit test for the retain_graph parameter. test=develop

* polish framework error meg part2

* polish details

* fix error msg report in ir/, about 19 files, test=develop

* modified some unclear descriptions, test=develop

* modified some unclear descriptions, test=develop

* modify unit test pass_test.cc, because the error report in pass.cc is used by pass_test.cc, test=develop

* refine squeeze, test=develop

* update squeeze, test=develop

* refine compile-time infershape, test=develop

* add more unittest, test=develop

* follow comments, test=develop

* add update_api, test=develop

* follow comments, test=develop

test=develop

* New features, add sinh and cosh op, test=develop

* remove duplicate test function and remove out paramters, test=develop

* Add out paramters temporary, remove later. test=develop

* remove out args, PR 25570, test=develop

* remove TestParameter, test=developx

* add test api for static dygraph, test=develop

* add backword unittests for sinh and cosh, test=develop

add fp64 support in sequence_pool, test=develop

* fix best_fit_allocator_test on windows, test=develop

* enable best_fit_allocator_test and test_math_op_patch_var_base, test=develop

Fix the condition of concat dimension judgment.

* update ResetHolder, test=develop

* add TensorShare for lite engine, test=develop

* tensor data changed from copying to sharing, test=develop

* supports xpu runtime, test=develop

* fix code styles, test=develop

* polish some error message in framework, test=develop

* fix unittest error, test=develop

* replace PADDLE_ENFORCE, test=develop

* polish details based review comment, test=develop

* fix windows ci
test=develop

* fix ci error

* add reinforcement learning model test=develop

* align backward test=develop

* add gym in paddle_build.sh test=develop

* rm pip install in script test=develop

* refine paddle_build.sh test=develop

* fix sed error in macOS test=develop

* polish code test=develop

* fix scope problem

* refine code by reviewer comment

* polish install error hint msg, test=develop

* fix variable error, test=develop

* polish hint messgae again

* fix error msg report in ir/, about 5 files, test=develop

* fix error msg report in ir/, about 5 files, test=develop

* fix error msg report in ir/, about 5 files, test=develop

refactor fleet api under paddle.fleet
update DistributedStrategy

Add Support for SelectedRows for Transpose OP and Fix a Bug That SelectedRows Cannot be Supported in SimNet (#25536)

This PR fixes a bug that SelectedRows cannot be supported in SimNet. The reason of this bug is that dygraph basic_engine didn't copy var's type when the var needs to be accumulated during backward. So when a var is SelectedRows and needs to be accumulated, like SimNet which calls net for two times, the var's type will be changed to default LoDTensor thus bug happens. To fix it, we just also copy the type.

Without this PR, the accumulated SelectedRows parameters in dygraph will be changed into LoDTensor. So when we fixed the bug of supporting SelectedRows in SimNet, we found `test_imperative_lod_tensor_to_selected_rows` failed and threw the error that SelectedRows was not supported for Transpose OP. To fix it, too, this PR also added support for SelectedRows for Transpose OP.