* use iwyu clean include second time, test=develop

* fix fleet for multi-stream

* fix memcpy for ncclid

* use sync to solve move operation

* add reducer

* refine envent for memorycopy

* add concat&split for allreduce

* apply concat & split for fuse tensor

* fix nccl dep

* fix the untest, compile problem and ddp initialize problem

* fix untest for mac & add some comments & solve the repeated param in sublayers

* fix untest for windows & fix document

* nccl init support hostname and ip; test=develop

cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

test=develop

add NCCLParallelContext for parallel dygraph