reduce the  occupied size  of memory for the fused pattern of elementwise_add Op and activation Op(relu Op for example) (#29885)

* add gru op_register_version; test=op_version;

* Update fc,mul version;test=op_version;

* Compiling operator libraries with Unity Build on Windows CPU.

* Compiling operator libraries with Unity Build on Windows GPU, no_test, test=windows_ci

* Add option in windows ci script, no_test, test=windows_ci

* Optimize parallel compiling, test=develop

* remove limit of parallel compile and skip some ops in UB, test=develop

* remove changes of header file, test=develop

* remove changes of header file, test=develop

* fix test_eye_op unittest failed, test=develop

* Compiling operator libraries with Unity Build on Linux, test=develop

* set default WITH_UNITY_BUILD=OFF, test=develop

* Move unity build rules into a single file and add comment, test=develop

* optimize parallel compilation, test=develop

* fix undefined reference error on coverage ci, test=develop

* Add multi_gru op and tests

* removed redundant disable_dygraph()

* skip_layernorm_op done

* add unittest

* slice op convertor support trt < 6

* skip_layernorm only work in ernie

* add fuse_bn_add_act pass

* polish some error message

* add white list

* revert shell script change

Polish the error message of fc, fused_fc_elementwise_layernorm and fused_embedding_seq_pool. (#27692)

* Polish the error message of fc_op.

* Polish the error message of fused_fc_elementwise_layer_norm op.

* Polish an error message in fused_embedding_seq_pool_op.

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* [bug fix]:Memory increases after adapting the cudnn version to 8

* [bug fix]cudnnGetConvolutionForwardAlgorithm not defined

* add fused_bn_add_relu op

* fix bug sequececonv_eltadd_relu_fuse_pass, output error when sequence_conv's padding_start > 0

* fix seqconv_eltadd_relu_fuse_pass unitest error

* Finished ChannelWiseQuantDequantAbsMaxOp and Passed unittests.

* Finished channel-wise quantize strategy in imperative quantization.

* Added Cuda code of ChannelWiseQuantDequantMaxAbsOP
Add Cuda code of ChannelWiseQuantDequantMaxAbsOp

* Add quant_axis for channel_wise quant.

* fixed a bug in unnitests, which will not trigger axis = 1 case and cannot meet the coverage rate requirement.

* Added some assert infomation and fixed some coding style mistakes.

* Add int8 GRU kernel with UTs

* Lint fixes

* More lint fixes

* Fix the lookup_table_v2 failed on GRU mkldnn kernel issue
test=develop

* fix according to reviews, removed x_num_col_dims
test=develop

* update gru model. change according to reviews
test=develop

* change according to reviews
test=develop

test=develop

* Add oneDNN fusion_gru kernel and fix fc+gru pass
test=develop

* Formatting changes
test=develop

* Lint fixes
test=develop

* Add memory::format_tag::any to GRU weights
test=develop

* Fix build with CUDA

* Fix build with CUDA v2

* cunn8 support
test=develop

* fix ci error
test=develop

* add new macro BOOST_GET_SAFELY & unittests, test=develop

* add different macro type, test=develop

* fix get macro type in executor, test=develop

* four macro part change backup

* using one macro for all case, test=develop

* revert attribute change, test=develop

* change to three func to solve gcc4.8 bug, test=develop

* polish some details, test=develop

* save InferVarType changes, test=develop

* remove code comments, test=develop

* tweak code, test=develop

* fix compilation warning, update merge_ids_op split_ids_op to new interface, test=develop

* modify fused_bn_activation_op, test=develop

* fix error of fused_bn_activation_op, test=develop

* fix PADDLE_ENFORCE and unittest coverage issue, test=develop

* tweak PADDLE_ENFORCE messages, test=develop

* improve unittest coverage, test=develop

* add StaticGraphInferVarType class, test=develop

* rebase develop branch, test=develop

* fix unittest error, test=develop

* remove comments, test=develop

* improve unittest coverage, test=develop

* imporve error message and imporve unittest coverage, test=develop

* upgrade InferVarType API, test=develop

* tweak pyfunc error message, test=develop

* fix compilation conflict - save_combine_op, test=develop

* support the head number == 1
test=develop

* fix slice op error.
test=develop

* OP(fusion_gru) error message enhancement. test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* Refine inout log, test=develop

* Refine description, test=develop

* Optimize the error messages of paddle CUDA API, test=develop

* fix the error messages of paddle CUDA API, test=develop

* Refactoring PADDLE_ENFORCE_CUDA_SUCCESS, and apply to curand/cudnn/cublas/NCCL,test=develop

* remove build_ex_string,test=develop

* merge conflict,test=develop

* API(fused_embedding_fc_lstm) error message enhancement. test=develop

C++ API enhancement.

* Refine code, test=develop

* Refine code. test=develop