resort .cu headers, set clang-format not sort include block and consider .cu as main source file (#43633)

This reverts commit 05f3d48e.

This reverts commit e77a947e.

* update

* add forward case

* update

* update; test=develop

* add some grad kernel; test=develop

* move gpu kernel; test=develop

* update

* update;

* update test;

* fix selected rows bug;

* add mix vector include ;

* add mixed vector depen; test=develop

* add logit grad signature;

* polish code

* fix bug;

* add namespace for abs

* revert code

* not move softsign

* revmove duplate register;

* fix softsign bug

* polish code

* format

* format

* fix bug

* remove cmake dep

* add square sqrt selected rows support

* update

* remove clip norm

* add standalone executor sqrt dep

* standalone exec denp sqrt

* remove sqrt op in cmkaelist

* open some case