* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

* fix nccl2 lars dist support

* put lars in momentum op

* add tests lars

* fix ci

* fix cpu kernel

* soft warning

* remove lars in test_recognize_digits.py

* move to another op

* add file

* update api.spec test=develop

* update test=develop

* fix api.spec test=develop

* wip

* wip, finish grad merge ops

* wip, finish graph build

* wip test running

* work on 1 gpu

* workable version

* update

* fix tests

* fuse broadcast op

* fix compile failed

* refine

* add batch merge test mnist

* fix CI test=develop

* fix build

* use independent bn params for batch merge test=develop

* update api.spec

* follow comments and for test

* wip

* refine tests test=develop

* follow comments test=develop

* remove startup bn modify test=develop

* follow comments test=develop

* fix merge test=develop

* Privatize OpHandleBase

* Clean up a few private members

* Update tensor_util.h

* Update with moved TensorDesc

* Fix tensur_utils.cu

* Update

* Update

* Update

* Update

* Make tensor_util.cu a symbolic link