[Pten]Refactor elementwise_add grad / double grad / triple grad Kernel and move them to pten (#39048)

* refactor elementwise add grad

* fix compile bugs

* fix unit test bugs

* fix file conflicts

* fix bugs when buildPtenContext

* add kernel for c++ api

* fix compile bugs

* fix kunlun compile bugs

* perfect cmake

* fix compile bugs when run ci-inference

* fix compile bugs

* add non-raw kernel for fluid op

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* fix unit test bug

* add cpu_context.

* update

* update

* update

* update

* update

* fix ci problem

* fix npu ci problem

* update

* fix ci compile

* add pten::Place data structure.

* update ci problem

* fix ci problem

* update

* using platform::Place=pten::Place

* remove BOOST_GET_CONST for CPUPlace and GPUPlace

* compile pass 25%.

* compile pass 45%

* compile pass 60%

* remove boost_get for xpu npu mlu and ipu

* compile pass on cpu and gpu.

* fix compile problem

* fix compile error.

* update

* fix ci problem

* update

* ci approve

* fix ci problem

* fix ci eager test problem

* remove BOOST_GET_CONST

* fix npu compile

* move dot_dev api into dot_kernel.h

* add infermate header

* modify to dotkerel in dot_op.h

* mvoe conj dev api into complex_kernel.h

* move sign dev api into  sign_kernel.h

* move scale dev api into kernel.h and remove infermete.h

* rm paddle/pten/include/math.h

* rm paddle/pten/include/math.h

* rm include dir

* rm paddle/pten/include/math.h

* fix conflict with develop branch

* rm devContext in conj_op.h

* add the missing complex_kernel header

* fix the wrong filename

* first commit

* first commit

* remove rest useless headers

* for ci approval

This reverts commit c0e2b98e.

* fix the wrong filename

* first commit

* change 'math' to 'math_kernel'

* fix compile bugs

* merge develop

* fix compile bugs

* Reduce reshape kernel functions in pten

* delete notes

* fix bugs when compile

* modify register name

* fix compile bugs

* add boardcast_sub

* add boardcast_sub

* elementwise_add kernel refactor

* fix compile bugs in elementwise_add refactor

* fix compile bugs when run in npu/xpu

* fix bugs when run unit test

* fix bugs when run ci-windows

* modify code as recommended

* code format adjust

* fix bugs when run ci

* fix compile bug when run in ci-windwos

* elementwise_sub refactor

* add PD_DLL_DECL for elementwise_sub

* fix bugs when compilei

* [ROCM] update fluid elementwise op for rocm (part10), test=develop

* update, test=develop

* address review comments, test=develop

Improve elementwise operators performance in same dimensions

add elementwise_sub_grad_grad op for backward of backward calculation

* wip simplify operator framework

* wip

* wip

* done test=develop

* clean test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix deps test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix tensorrt build test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix input<tensor>
test=develop

* fix split_ids
test=develop

* ElementwiseMul should not support SelectedRows

* fix scale op
test=develop

* change GetTensorFromVar() method to GetTensorOrSelectedRowsFromVar()

* fix operator

* refine MultiOutput

* fix MultiOutput
test=develop

* disable test_dist_save_load
test=develop

* fix elementwise_op
test=develop

* add get_sparse_as_op
test=develop

* add info for check
test=develop

* rename get_sparse_as_op with extract_rows_as_op.
test=develop

* elementwise doesn't support selected_rows

* fix regularizer

* remove extract_rows_as
test=develop

* fix ci
test=develop

* add test for sum_op

* fix regularizer
test=develop

*  test=develop

* fix pserver weight decay multi inputs test=develop

* "add gradient register"

* "make some enhance"

* "better format"

* "fix typo"

* "fix reuse"

* "fix get expected kernel"

* "change the mkldnn code"

* "fix mkldnn"

* "fix mkldnn failed test"

* "add comment"

There are mainly following fixes:

- take `DeviceContext` as the template parameter of math functors and OpKernel instead of `Place`
- remove `eigen_device` interface in base class  `DeviceContext`
- remove `GetEigenDevice` interface in `ExecutionContext` and base class `DeviceContext`
- remove unused `platform::EigenDeviceConverter`
- rename `REGISTER_OP_GPU_KERNEL` to `REGISTER_OP_CUDA_KERNEL`
- rename `USE_GPU_ONLY_OP` to `USE_CUDA_ONLY_OP`

Elementwise operator add/sub/mul/div