remove eigen threadpool for the speed up

This PR is follow up of #28213. On that PR we tried to decrease GPU usage, however the CI still randomly failed. So I added retry logic for the initialization of nccl and cusolver. If the initialization failed, we can retry to avoid the random failure.

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

enhance reduce op which can reduce tensor with arbitrary rank 

* Add mechanism for blocking oneDNN cache clearing

* Review changes and Add thread guards

* support Baidu AI Accelerator
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* minor
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* support xpu op in separate file
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* update XPU error message and remove duplicated code

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* minor
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* minor
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* fix PADDLE_ENFORCE and refine the description
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* Add cholesky_op forward part. test=develop

* Complete cholesky_op forward part. test=develop

* Add cholesky_op backward part. test=develop

* Complete cholesky_op backward part. test=develop

* Refine cholesky_op error check and docs. test=develop

* Add grad_check unit test for cholesky_op. test=develop

* Fix sample code in cholesky doc. test=develop

* Refine some error messages of cholesky_op. test=develop

* Refine some error messages of cholesky_op. test=develop

* Remove unused input in cholesky_grad. test=develop

* Remove unused input in cholesky_grad. test=develop

* Fix stream for cusolverDnSetStream. test=develop

* Update PADDLE_ENFORCE_CUDA_SUCCESS from cholesky_op to adapt to latest code.
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* Add CUSOLVER ERROR in enforce.h
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* Fix the missing return value in cholesky. test=develop

* Optimize the error messages of paddle CUDA API, test=develop

* fix the error messages of paddle CUDA API, test=develop

* Refactoring PADDLE_ENFORCE_CUDA_SUCCESS, and apply to curand/cudnn/cublas/NCCL,test=develop

* remove build_ex_string,test=develop

* merge conflict,test=develop

* supports thread-binding stream, test=develop

* avoid using thread_local variables in dtor, test=develop

* modify the stream priority enum, test=develop

cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

stack's wait cost a lot of cpu time, use cuda kernel to do memory copy
will reduce cpu time.
Signed-off-by: Nzhaoyuchen <zhaoyuchen01@baidu.com>

* fix warnings oof gcc 8 compilation, test=develop

* fix boost::bad_get, test=develop

* refine PADDLE_ENFORCE, test=develop

* Improve topk performance.

give 200000 data to compute topk,
before opt: cost 1s
after opt: cost 0.0028s.

* Refine return value.
* Add cuda util funtions.
* Fix ComputeBlockSize bug & refine comments.
Signed-off-by: Nzhaoyuchen <zhaoyuchen01@baidu.com>

* How to write custom op needs to follow framework OP spec.
* Package fluid_framework.so and headers into whl.
* Add paddle.sysconfig.get_include() and paddle.sysconfig.get_lib() to get include dir and lib dir.
* Export some C-APIs to merge OpInfo between core.so and custom_op.so.
* Add unit testing.
* Update API.spec.

* refine reallocate of workspace size, test=develop

* add lock to cudnn handle calls, test=develop

TemporaryAllocator is a singleton used for allocating memory for Cudnn. Since it is a singleton, we can delete it for better performance in memory.

We replace TemporaryAllocator by CUDADeviceContextAllocator and CUDADeviceContextAllocation, which uses stream callback to delete the memory allocated for the stream to avoid singleton.

Also added data_feed_proto to operator to fix CI in CPU compilation

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* add mkldnn shapeblob cache clear strategy

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* refine with comments

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* make cache clear strategy more safey

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* add lock for GetShapeBlobSize

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* rename mkldnn set/get_cur_thread_id() to set/get_cur_mkldnn_session_id()

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* update session id definition and adjust logic for default behavior

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* reset logic in mkldnn reuse as most of cases work in default.

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1. Use CudnnWorkspaceHandle in exhaustive search of conv_cudnn.
2. For Ops using CudnnWorkspaceHandle in exhaustive search, release their GPU memory after exhaustive search.

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* speedup gc and inplace softmax_with_cross_entropy_grad
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* refine models gpu mem
Merge skip vars and warning messages of mem opt
remove relu mem opt
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* follow comments
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