[cherry-pick] faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11(#22230)

* test=develop, bug fix for sparse recorder

[cherry-pick] #22191
- 添加了fluid-lite子图方式运行resnet的单测
- 修改了依赖Lite的git commit id

* test Optimizer in dygraph, test=develop

* add optest for Optimizer in dygraph, test=develop

* fix adagrad optimizer, test=develop

* fix dpsgd optimizer, test=develop

* fix test_optimizer.py, test=develop

* fix dpsgd optimizer, this op only support cpu, test=develop

* add optest for optimizer, test=develop

* add description for dpsgd, test=develop

* add rmsprop to white_list in unused_var_check.cc, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

* delete seed attribute for DpsgdOptimizer, test=develop

* change testing to debugging, test=develop

* Polish the PADDLE_ENFORCE in fusion_group pass related codes.
test=develop

* Correct the unittest because of the change relu_grad's formula.
test=develop

* add support for nested profiling event and printing in different level

stack's wait cost a lot of cpu time, use cuda kernel to do memory copy
will reduce cpu time.
Signed-off-by: Nzhaoyuchen <zhaoyuchen01@baidu.com>

* modify fc to linear in sample code, test=develop

* remove FC, test=develop

* remove warnings, test=develop

* drop fluid/imperative/README.md , test=develop

* change fc to linear, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

Add coverage data processing tools.

1. Add a new input named batch_roi_nums for prroi_pool_op. batch_roi_nums includes the number of roi for each image in batch when rois is Tensor. This information is saved in rois's lod when rois is LoDTensor.
2. add grad check to prroi_pool_op and solve unnormal X grad diff in CPU.

* fix sample code, test=develop

* polish code style, test=develop

test=develop

* add TRT support for instance_norm op

windows conv_fusion failed as no kernel， explicit declare lambda
Signed-off-by: Nzhaoyuchen <zhaoyuchen01@baidu.com>

* add special way to add distribute vars， Update Pyramid hash op

* add erf op and python interface.

* add fp16 support for erf op.

* add unitests for erf op and its python interface.

* support elu activation double grad,test=develop

* delete the code commit in .cc,test=develop

* fix relu test unpass, test=develop

* add elu double grad kernel and unit test

* add caculate dX in elu double grad functor, test=develop

* update the commit code,test=develop

* add gelu plugin

* align trt bert with gpu

* add support for fused fc with relu,

* add unittest for bert trt

* add distributed_strategy