[cherry-pick] faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11(#22230)

* Pack imperative/layer into paddle_framework.so

* add jeston compile support
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* refine the cmake
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* add unused input vars check for OpWithKernel, test=develop

* remove unused vars in some ops, test=develop

* fix batch_norm, test=develop

* add white list, test=develop

* add CI check for white list, test=develop

* :ove white list to c++, test=develop

* solve failure of CI, test=develop

* add unittest for unused_var_check, test=develop

* refine code, enable check in operator_test, test=develop

* skip mkldnn, test=develop

* extend white list, test=develop

* refine condition of mkldnn, test=develop

* fix paddle_build, test=develop

* follow comments, test=develop

* fix GetExpectedKernelType

* add wiki ref to err_msg, test=develop

* follow comment, test=develop

* use system allocator in unittests, test=develop

* fix op bugs, test=develop

* fix tensor copy bug when src and dst are the same, test=develop

* support no need buffer vars in dygraph, test=develop

* fix inference compilation error, test=develop

* update no_need_buffer_vars_inference, test=develop

* add unittests for no_need_buffer_vars_context, test=develop

* refine no_need_buffer_vars by return ref, test=develop

* polish some codes, test=develop

* add more err msg, test=develop

* add more unittests, test=develop

* support dlpack to tensor and implement python interface test=develop

* add unittest for _to_dlpack and from_dlpack test=develop

* add new save load interface; test=develop

* add new save interface; test=develop

* add save load interface ;

* fix save load error;

* fix dygraph set dict bug;

* add save load unit test; test=develop

* fix test_imperative_optimizer bug; test=develop

* fix unitest optimizer bug; test=develop

* fix code coverage; test=develop

* fix converage; test=develop

* add document for apis; test=develop

* fix unitest error; test=develop

* fix save load unit test error; test=develop

* fix error message; test=develop

* change set_parameter set_optimizer to save_dygraph; test=develop

* add load_graph check; test=develop

* fix api spec; test=develop

add executor.FetchHandler for train/infer from the dataset

* How to write custom op needs to follow framework OP spec.
* Package fluid_framework.so and headers into whl.
* Add paddle.sysconfig.get_include() and paddle.sysconfig.get_lib() to get include dir and lib dir.
* Export some C-APIs to merge OpInfo between core.so and custom_op.so.
* Add unit testing.
* Update API.spec.

* update operator compatible info, test=develop

* revert cmake/version.cmake, test=develop

* add unit_tests and fix bugs, test=develop

* update ../paddle/fluid/framework/framework.proto, test=develop

* fix bug of paddle/fluid/inference/api/analysis_predictor.cc, test=develop

* update paddle/fluid/framework/version_test.cc, test=develop

* add comments and rename interfaces, test=develop

* add op compatible infomation; test=develop

* add enum type

* add enum type; test=develop

Add boost as dependency of prune

fix #19862

TemporaryAllocator is a singleton used for allocating memory for Cudnn. Since it is a singleton, we can delete it for better performance in memory.

We replace TemporaryAllocator by CUDADeviceContextAllocator and CUDADeviceContextAllocation, which uses stream callback to delete the memory allocated for the stream to avoid singleton.

Also added data_feed_proto to operator to fix CI in CPU compilation

fix cmakelist deps: remove unnecessary deps and add proper op deps

* Support looking up embeddings from BoxPS.
* Add a _pull_box_sparse op, for now this op is not exposed to users.
* Add a BoxHelper class, providing 'BeginPass', 'EndPass', 'FeedPass' functions and so on.
* Add 'BoxPSDataset' in python code.
* Add a compile options WITH_BOX_PS and a MACRO PADDLE_WITH_BOX_PS.
* Add UT.
* More concrete information pls refer to: https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/18982

* Add call stack info during runtime and compile time
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* Rename operator_call_stack
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* Add unit test
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* follow comment
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* open gc by default, test=develop

* fix test_train_recognize_digits and disable gc when ngraph is enabled, test=develop

* fix conditional_block op eager deletion bug, test=develop

* add some comments to reviewers, test=develop

* remove legacy memory optimization codes, test=develop

* follow huihuang's comments,test=develop

* follow luotao's comments, test=develop

Test PaddingRNN on V100 GPU device.

Test configuration: large model, padding mode (which is the mode using recurrentOp), one GPU.
                   
GPU memory (MiB):   6414 (this PR)     vs   6837 (without this PR)
Speed (steps/s):         10.28 (this PR)    vs    9.89 (without this PR)
 

* remove async executor and add data_feed.proto to the deps of train demo

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
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* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
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* fix comment
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* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
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* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
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* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* fix comment
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* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* test=develop
add collective op unittest standard

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* remove slicegather test

* code format for reducescatter

* update attr of shard_index_op

* Modify macro nccl_helper

* remove test without distribute

* macro collective_helper

* marcro update

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update support python3.5

* test=develop change gpu memory use to 0.1 when test

* test=develop
update ut equal func

* test=develop
set flags to 1.5

* test=develop fix pickle dumple  py35

* test=develop
fix divide in slice and add sync_comm_stream
update atol and rtol to 1e-05
rm shard_index op and test
modify read input from file to read from memory
remove origin_program in framework and add i/o in c_sync_calc_stream

* test=develop update unittest sync operator I/O

Add Pipeline Concurrency Train Mode:
- Cpp: pipeline_trainer & section_worker
- Python: PipelineOptimizer
- Add a new data_feed type: PrivateInstantDataFeed
- Add a test demo of pipeline trainer and the test model is gnn
- Do not support win32 now

* Revert "Revert "Fix allocator bug""

This reverts commit 174d0d0b.

* Revert "fix travis ci"

This reverts commit 5656fa9f.

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* add inlined_vector.h, test=develop

* add inlined_vector_test,test=develop

* fix comments of 16410, test=develop

* modify inplace_op_inference_test according to pass interface change, test=develop

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