[cherry-pick] faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11(#22230)

* Support looking up embeddings from BoxPS.
* Add a _pull_box_sparse op, for now this op is not exposed to users.
* Add a BoxHelper class, providing 'BeginPass', 'EndPass', 'FeedPass' functions and so on.
* Add 'BoxPSDataset' in python code.
* Add a compile options WITH_BOX_PS and a MACRO PADDLE_WITH_BOX_PS.
* Add UT.
* More concrete information pls refer to: https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/18982

* add tensorrt support for windows

* remove the obsolete cmake options, test=develop

* remove unittests, test=develop

* support avx and noavx core

* add catch and give some log

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* fix build

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* add missing package

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* fix pybind name

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* fix import error

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* conbime noavx core

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* add requirements

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* fix unkown message

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* fix api spec

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* refine and clean

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* update

* pass dist ut

* follow comments

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* refine scripts

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This reverts commit c38c7c56.

* link the libwbaes.so into paddle

* polish detail, test=develop

* try fix mac_pr_ci error, test=develop

* add compile option, test=develop

* fix ci error, test=develop

* ignore failed to find mac lib, test=develop

* change cdn to bj, cdn can't get the latest version

* trigger ci, test=develop

* temporary delete win32 lib linking, test=develop

* change https to http, test=develop

* turn compile option on to off

* turn compile option off to on, test=develop

* try lib compiled by gcc4.8, test=develop

* update lib version, test=develop

* link other lib, test=develop

* add setup config

* delete false, test=develop

* delete no_soname, test=develop

* recover so name set

* fix, test=develop

* adjust make config, test=develop

* remove link to wbaes, test=develop

* remove useless define, test=develop

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The macro should be defined by compiler rather than by source.

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* fix inference on gpu out of mem

the transfer logic in operator.cc will keep creating new scopes.

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* picked pr

* "fix ci"

* Optimize CRF decoding with AVX/AVX2 instruction

* Enable the AVX2 flags for compiling

* Clean the code and decrease the count of multiply calculation

* Add the support of AVX512 instruction to optimize CRF Decoding

* Clean the code

* Enable the AVX512f flags for compiling

* Clean the code for the invaluable switch

* Fixed the issue to check AVX512F status

* Clean the code

* Add some explanation of the key points

* cudnn widndows

* "add comment"

* "windows support"

* "fix cmake error"

* remove patchelf in windowls

* "follow comment"

* wip

* use executor.complete to end trainer

* fix build

* fix build with distribute off

* fix typo

* fix cmake typo

* fix build