FIx C++ inference BUG: When open memory optim and enable trt subgraph at the same time, there is a bug (#19969)

* fix memory optimization type
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* 1. fix BUG: open trt and memory optim will trigger bug.
2. Clean memory optim bug.
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* fix mask rcnn bug:
1. affine channel fuse (diff)
2. condition block op (memory leak)
3. merge lod tensor op (diff)
4. memroy optim (diff)
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* fix ci aboud PADDLE_ENFOCE
fix merge lod infer op ut
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* fix: when use the load model from memory mode, the RAM occupy is high

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* ligth mem reuse
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* fix cpplint
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