* change the cmake and apis of lite engine, test=develop

* change the cmake of lite engine, test=develop

* change the function in op_teller, test=develop

* correct the commit-id, test=develop

* update external lite, test=develop

* switch WITH_TESTING to OFF, test=develop

[cherry-pick] #22384 and #22371

22384增加了WITH_NCCL开关

22371修改了fluid依赖lite的commit id

* [cherry-pick] fluid-lite subgraph resnet50 test. test=develop test=release/1.7

* modify lite commit id. test=develop test=release/1.7

[cherry-pick] #22191
- 添加了fluid-lite子图方式运行resnet的单测
- 修改了依赖Lite的git commit id