Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server (API add `fluid.contrib.layers.sparse_embedding` only) (#22957)

* Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server

* add retry for prefetch

* Revert "Fix/sync barrier (#25016)"

This reverts commit be6a315f.

* reopen dist UT, test=develop

* remove fl UT, test=develop

* fix sync barrier with barrier monitor, test=develop

* remove REPLACE_ENFORCE_GLOG compile option & add ci rule prohibit LOG(FATAL) using, test=develop

* remove ci test case, test=develop

* replace all LOG(FATAL) & polish message, test=develop

* fix typo, test=develop

* polish error info detail, test=develop

* Make optimizer consistent in dygraph and static-graph and remove some LOG-INFO

Compile without nccl deps. [1/2]
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

* test=develop, bug fix for sparse recorder

* update pserver decay blocks

* update distributed notify handler

* bug fix: invalid learning rate decay in pserver async mode

Heartbeat for distributed async training.

* rpc retry for asycsend/get/prefetch

* test=develop, change retry vlog level to 3

* test=develop, set default grpc_retry_times is 3

Polish fleet API to support cuda collective mode and nccl2 mode

* refine profiler && add runtime tracer

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* fix bug && test=develop

* add thread id map && test=develop

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* testing

* bug fix

* remove cuda event && refine code && test=develop

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* fix windows temp file && test=develop

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* fix windows bug && test=develop

* fix start up issue && test=develop

* code polish &&  test=develop

* remove unused code && test=develop

* add some cupti cbid && test=develop

* add FLAGS_multiple_of_cupti_buffer_size && test=develop

* fix compile error && test=develop

* add keyword && test=develop

* fix && test=develop

* code polish && test=develop

checkpoint for distributed training.

* wip

* wip

* refactor no.1 dir structure test=develop

* fix linking test=develop

* fix includes test=develop

* fix build test=develop

* fix build test=develop