* Support multi-stream allocation for CUDA place

* Do not notify the retrying from other streams when free CUDA allocation

* Fix compile error for CPU

* Fix compile error for HIP

* Release memory for StreamSafeCUDAAllocaRetry in malloc_test

* Add FLAGS_use_stream_safe_cuda_allocator

* Fix CI error for 'set_tests_properties'

* Invalidate stream safe CUDA allocator for naive_best_fit and thread_local strategy

* Performance improvement: insert allocation pair to outstanding_events_map when free but not alloc; replace recursive_mutex with SpinLock

* FLAGS priority changes: FLAGS_use_system_allocator > FLAGS_use_stream_safe_cuda_allocator

* Performance improvement: directly delete allocation when the recorded_streams is empty in FreeImpl of StreamSafeCUDAAllocator

* Add UT for alloc interface

* Changes multi-stream interface; move retry code from AllocatorFacadePrivate to StreamSafeCUDAAllocator

faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11 (#22164)

TemporaryAllocator is a singleton used for allocating memory for Cudnn. Since it is a singleton, we can delete it for better performance in memory.

We replace TemporaryAllocator by CUDADeviceContextAllocator and CUDADeviceContextAllocation, which uses stream callback to delete the memory allocated for the stream to avoid singleton.

Also added data_feed_proto to operator to fix CI in CPU compilation

* Revert "Revert "Add Event for TensorCopy" (#16022)"

This reverts commit e2da3a5b.

* use default stream
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* Revert "Add Event for TensorCopy (#15953)"

This reverts commit 7235fd66.
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* fix CI
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Add Event for TensorCopy 

* Revert "Add Event for TensorCopy (#15953)"

This reverts commit 7235fd66.
test=develop

* fix CI
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Add Event for TensorCopy 

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Use OO style to rewrite memory allocation.

* make enforce a target and dependent on nccl when gpu is enabled

* add some more dependency

* Add debug logs in scope, meta_cache and memory

* Add missing deps