* Update backward appending stragety to support double backward and fix some bug. (#18104)

* Update backward.py:
     - If there is no input grad var in all outputs of previous ops, do not append this op into graph.
     - Only apply this stragety when double backward.
* Update some double backward op.
* Update sum_op to judge whether a tensor is empty by numel or IsInitialized().

* test=develop, double backward reduce_mean

* add comment. test=develop

* fix format. test=develop

* rename GradGrad -> DoubleGrad. test=develop

* fix op_use_default_grad_op_maker.spec. test=develop

* wip simplify operator framework

* wip

* wip

* done test=develop

* clean test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix deps test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix tensorrt build test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* "split into multiple .ccl"

* "refine file structure"

* "refine files"

* "remove the cmakelist"

* "fix typo"

* "fix typo"

* fix ci