cherry-pick some PR about optimize sparse kernel and fix some bug：
#47736 #47703 #47604 #46679 #48439 #49009 #49734

* [XPU] update xdnn activations. (#46246)

* [XPU] update xpu cmake. test=kunlun

* back fl

* delete ssl cert

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* make warning

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* unittest paral degree

* solve unittest

* heter & multi cloud commm ready

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* fix gloo compile warning

* adapt for nn fl-ps

* [XPU] update xdnn to 0906. test=kunlun

* [XPU] update xdnn to 0907. test=kunlun

* update brpc version;test=develop

* update xccl lib

* change user name to pass cla check

* [XPU] add some collective ops. test=kunlun

* use XPUOpTestWrapper. test=kunlun

* skip kl1 for collective ops. fix typo: deivce -> device. test=kunlun

* fix bug of adaptive pool2d_grad, *test=kunlun

* fix bug of adaptive pool2d_grad, *test=kunlun

* fix bug of adaptive pool2d_grad, *test=kunlun

* add merged_momentum *test=kunlun

* add merged_momentum *test=kunlun

* add fp16 to merged_momentum,*test=kunlun

* c++ property deserialization

* fix for comment

* more error info

* fix exception info

* fix ci

* fix compile

* fix layer test ci

* support ninja

* fix mkldnn on windows

* fix mkldnn on windows up1

* up2

* up3

* fix gflags

* BUILD_BYPRODUCTS_OPTION -> BUILD_BYPRODUCTS_ARGS

* use CMAKE_COMMAND

* up x

* [XPU] add top_k op. test=kunlun

* [XPU] add top_k op. test=kunlun

* use PADDLE_ENFORCE_XDNN_NOT_NULL to check pointer. test=kunlun

* fix bug of elementwise_add_grad, *test=kunlun

* fix bug, *test=kunlun

* rm pooling_t, *test=kunlun

* fix bug of ew_add_grad when inplace, *test=kunlun

* back fl

* delete ssl cert

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* make warning

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* unittest paral degree

* solve unittest

* heter & multi cloud commm ready

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* fl-ps v1.0

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* support N + N mode

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* delete print

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* fix bug

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* fl-ps with coordinator ready

* merge dev

* update message parse only

* update fl client scheduler

* fix bug

* update multithreads sync

* fix ci errors

* update role_maker.py

* update role_maker.py

* fix ci error: windows py import error

* fix ci error: windows py import error

* fix windows ci pylib import error

* add dump fields & params

* try to fix windows import fleet error

* fix ps FLAGS error

*test=kunlun

* add xpu resnet_unit
*test=kunlun

* tmp
*test=kunlun

* update xccl lib
    * use separate streams for compute/comm on XPU
    * add broadcast op to xpu2_op_list

* grid sampler op for xpu. test=kunlun

* update relu xdnn api. test=kunlun.

* rmsprop for xpu. test=kunlun

* minor fix (follow comments). test=kunlun

* add ort clone interface

* paddle2onnx update to 1.0.0rc

* ort input_tensor use mutable data of scope

style in test_iou_similarity_op_xpu.py. *test=kunlun

* copy onnxruntime.dll to c++ test folder in windows

* remove ut that failed due to onnxrumtime.dll

* test_api_impl failed of diff

* use TARGET to make sure if the test exist; use POST_BUILD to add copy command

Modify the unittests of the assign_value, iou_similarity, one_hot_v2, reduce_mean, roi_align op. test=kunlun (#44061)

* make only win32 and 11.6 use external/cub

* unify cub version in linux and windows when cuda >= 11.6

* Revert "Revert "make inference_api_test compile with dynamic linking library (#41944)" (#43882)"

This reverts commit e6d81ddf.

* modify third_party cmake

* move SKIP_CPP_TEST return in the begining