resort .cu headers, set clang-format not sort include block and consider .cu as main source file (#43633)

* 1. add the python api grad 2. add final and intermediate state vlog 3. change the python_api error logic

* add python api or close the check_eager=True

* fix the compatibility

* add gelu

* fix gelu

* add log_softmax

* add prelu kernel and prelu/gelu/logsoftmax infershape

* fix

* fix

* fix

* fix

* fix ci

* log_softmax rewrite

* fix

* fix

* fix conflict

* fix compile error

* fix comment

* fix

* ci_fix
Co-authored-by: NYan Li <liyan665@gmail.com>