adjust ins weight according to nid slot , user can specify adjust_ins_weight in strategy

Fix FleetWrapper:
1. fix shrink dense: just scale show
2. add datanorm scale: divide datanorm's gradient by batch_size

The change includes 2 things:

1. save delta model and shrink table are control by the same parameter before, now add delete_after_unseen_days to control shrink table.
2. value in sparse table has no slot before, now add slot in sparse table, and add DownpureCtrAccessor to support the new meta.
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fix data feed ptr runtime error, pipeline trainer will core in some cases, so set it nullptr as default value.

(1) use channel instead of vector/BlockingQueue in Dataset，to keep same with existing implementation, and make code more readable and flexible (dataset single output channel or multi output channel). one previous memory out of limit problem is cause by not release memory after training.
(2) add Record because MultiSlotType costs too much memory (80B)，fix memory out of limit problem.
(3) add Channel, Archive in paddle/fluid/framework
(4) change dataset from shared_ptr to unique_ptr in pybind
(5) move create/destroy readers from trainer to dataset
(6) move shuffle from datafeed to dataset. dataset holds memory, datafeed is only for load data and feed data to network.
(7) fix thread num bug of Dataset when filelist size < thread num
(8) support set_queue_num in InMemoryDataset

Add Pipeline Concurrency Train Mode:
- Cpp: pipeline_trainer & section_worker
- Python: PipelineOptimizer
- Add a new data_feed type: PrivateInstantDataFeed
- Add a test demo of pipeline trainer and the test model is gnn
- Do not support win32 now

* add save/load model, shrink table, cvm, config file & fix pull dense bug
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* fix global shuffle bug, fix pull dense bug, fix release memeory bug, fix shrink error
add client flush, add get data size
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* fix global shuffle bug
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* fix global shuffle bug
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* fix code style
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* fix code style & modify pslib cmake
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* fix error of _role_maker
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* fix code style
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* fix code style
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* fix code style
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* fix code style
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* fix code style
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* fix windows compile error of fleet
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* fix global shuffle bug

* add comment
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* update pslib.cmake
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* fix fill sparse bug
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* fix push sparse bug
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add dist_multi_trainer for distributed training, add trainer_factory and device_worker_factory so that we can easily extend new training mode, add pull dense worker which is a singleton for parameter fetching