* cherry pick heter ps

* 　CMakeList

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* add heter ps mode

* code style
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* add with_pslib
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* unitest
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* code style
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* test monitor
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* prepare trainer
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* Add two types of Metric Calculator: MultiTaskCalculator & CmatchRankCalculator.
* Add a config for DynamicAdjustChannelNum function to denote whether we will discard the remaining instances when they are not be distributed evenly.
* Remove CPU code in Pull/PushSparse and we will add it back when testing it fully.
* Fix some known issues: such as copying persistable vars after one epoch running.

cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

* add collective communication library in fleet to replace mpi
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* Support looking up embeddings from BoxPS.
* Add a _pull_box_sparse op, for now this op is not exposed to users.
* Add a BoxHelper class, providing 'BeginPass', 'EndPass', 'FeedPass' functions and so on.
* Add 'BoxPSDataset' in python code.
* Add a compile options WITH_BOX_PS and a MACRO PADDLE_WITH_BOX_PS.
* Add UT.
* More concrete information pls refer to: https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/18982

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