* save/load in ps runtime(the_one_ps) (#36097)

* add trainer desc config to distributed strategy

* code style modified

* data_feed set lod

* fix bug

* code style

* fix bug

* save load

* save load

* save unittest

* add unittest of the_one_ps

* unittest

* add todo in communicator sendsparse

* fix bug in save_inference_model (#37362)

* fix cpp lint
* fix save/load with unexpected value
* fix save and user interface

* solve the initial configuration about fleet and rolemaker
Co-authored-by: NseiriosPlus <tangwei12@baidu.com>

* add save/load for parameter server