* Added selected_rows and rw_lock to pten

* Renamed the unit test target to fix CI

* Removed Class SelectedRows in Fluid, changed include/cmake relationship, use pten::SelectedRows in Fluid

* Remove rw_lock.h,rw_lock_test.cc in fluid

* Use pten::RWLock and pten::AutoRDLock, fix CI

* Use pten::SelectedRows

* Use pten::SelectedRows

* Fix to pass NPU CI

* Use pten::SelectedRows, to pass NPU CI

* To fix NPU CI

* To fix NPU CI again

add hashtable dynamic mf support

add dynamic mf size api

add mem pool

* refine structure for cuda and rocm

* update

* update

* update

* update

* auc temp

* cuballocator

* code format

* code format

* add refrence

* format

* merge dense

* log level

* tensor copy sync

* format

* psgpu:edit cuda remote_streams; test=develop

* fix hdfs and fleet_util for supporting save/load infer;test=develop

* pslib with cmake

* heter util

* vlog

* heter server test

* add dtor

* cmake

* Revert "Revert "[PsCore] optimize performance of large kv (#32535)" (#32599)"

This reverts commit 809ac036.

* brpc dep

This reverts commit 4b7242b0.

* optimize pull sparse

* optimize pull sparse

* change macro

* format

* pscore support heterps

* fleet cmake

* fleet wrapper

* macro

* solve conflict

* solve conflict

* add unitest

* paddle enforce

* unitest

* unitest

* unitest

* [ROCM] update fluid operators for rocm (part5), test=develop

* address review comments, test=develop

* fix typo, test=develop

* topo and memory performance for heterps; test=develop
* add trainwithprofiler in heter trainier; test=develop

* push multi node

* multi node

* MultiThread

* remove log

* solve bug in 30829

* dump to cpu

* format

* format

* format

* add topo aware

* resource.h

* topo aware

* format

* 　add heter box

* add trainer, worker, wrapper...

* format

* for ci

* format

* remove boost get

* boost & copyright

* rename

* 　rename

* format

* format

* format
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