* nullptr bugfix for XPU pg mode

Also a few kernels is added to xpu whitelist

* increase error msg length

This is a PR to catch up with latest xpu white list strategy
(https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/48606)
, since original list only include 'fluid' fashion names, but new list
must include 'phi' fashion as well.
Refer to paddle/phi/core/kernel_factory.cc for more details.

* [XPU] add load op into oplist.

* remove test_sampling_id_op_xpu.py

* move cuda_graph from fluid to phi

* move device_memory_aligment from fluid to phi

* Revert "move device_memory_aligment from fluid to phi"

This reverts commit b92fcd39a0a50fdac13278f49be0237a85f3a13f.

* update xpu cmake

*test=kunlun

*test=kunlun

some legacy code still use xpu_wait() for stream sync -- it only syncs
default stream. this PR replaces them with dev_ctx.Wait() to ensure
that correct stream is always used

* rm fluid “xpu_header.h” deps in phi

* move part of xpu_op_list.h from fluid to phi

* add fluid xpu_op_list deps

* add glog deps for xpu_op_list in phi

* fix PR-CI-Kunlun

* for xpu multi thread bug test

* correct sync behavior for XPU distributed training

XPU support event mechanism similar to cuda event, so it is advisable to
use an event to sync compute/comm streams for performance. However this
mechanism is never fully tested, and inconsistent loss/ending_epochs are
reported. Therefore, this PR replaces event sync with stream waiting as
a temporary solution.

* remove compile warning

* XPU support eager mode

* add unittest for XPU eager mode

* minor bugfix

* minor bugfix, test=kunlun

* correct copyright info

* 1. remove unsed vars/funcs
2. ProcessGroupBKCL inherit from ProcessGroupStream

* bugfix for fp16 in eager mode multi-card, test=kunlun

* rebase & fix a few issues

* use new processgroup interface, test=kunlun

* fix compile issue, test=kunlun

* add extra attr property set

* add type_info for all context

* add onednn context to all context

* fix context compile error

* simplify conv kernel args

* pass runtime attr into dev_ctx

* fix marco error

* clear conv_grad_kernel extra args

* merge conv_grad_grad into conv_grad

* clear conv2d_grad_grad extra attrs

* clear yaml and eager extra attr

* fix conv1d error

* change to thread local

* fix npu compile failed

* try to fix windows compile failed

* add conv2d onednn phi kernel

* fix ci bugs (#36)

* fix compile bugs (#38)

* fix extra input transform bug (#39)

* support dynamic created attr (#40)

* reset extra info gen code

* rm conv_grad_grad kernel

* reimpl pass attr adapting

* add int attr support

* remove vector inputnames creating

* fix map at error

* Update paddle/phi/kernels/onednn/conv_grad_kernel.cc
Co-authored-by: NSławomir Siwek <slawomir.siwek@intel.com>

* remove useless extra attrs

* replace mkldnn_engine by onednn_engine
Co-authored-by: NYuanRisheng <yuanrisheng@baidu.com>
Co-authored-by: NSławomir Siwek <slawomir.siwek@intel.com>

* change to async mode for xpu multi-card training in static graph mode

* minor bugfix

* irrelevant. move to another pr

* move change to other pr

* fix stream issue

* fix 'stream not meet with current context' error

* fix branch diverge, test=kunlun

* add macro control in enforce_xpu.h, test=kunlun

* minor bugfix

* minor bugfix

* compile into one static library

* fix xpu compile

* fix xpu compile

* fix inference compile

* fix inference compile

* add custom test

* revert one file

* update xccl lib
    * use separate streams for compute/comm on XPU
    * add broadcast op to xpu2_op_list

* update xpu depends
*test=kunlun

* minor
*test=kunlun
Co-authored-by: Nroot <root@yq01-sys-hic-p40-0091.yq01.baidu.com>

* support kps backend and compile

* resolve conflict

* fix kps backend trans

* test in xpu2 device

* remove dummy kernel

* rename pten_utils to phi_utils

* rename pten_utils target

* rename Pten to Phi

* replace pten with phi

* resolve conflict

* rename pten to phi

* fix infrt compile failed

* resolve conflict

* change Vector to std::vector and provide MixVector class as a helper wrapper class

* solve the multi-gpu hang problem

* remove the duplicate template instantialize

* Copy vector to cpu

* add CopyToCPU

* xxx

* final version: fix the problem of all reduce

* remove mixvector dependence

* fix

* merge

* fix code

* fix by CI

* rename pten dir to phi

* rename namespace to phi

* rename infrt pten dir to phi

* resolve conflict

* rename pten to phi in cmake

* revert all infrt change

* change needed files

* fix infrt failed

* fix inference failed