Add tests to use dy/dx to make sure the gradient values calculated by the control flow backward is correct. Also fixed bugs detected by those tests.

Fix bugs:

1. Unlike sum_op, optimizer ops don't allow uninitialized input tensor. But in conditional_block_grad_op, since the conditional_block may not run, the output gradient tensor may be uninitialized, which will cause the optimizer op error. To fix it, we should let optimizer ops support uninitialized input like sum_op or assign the uninitialized gradient to 0 when the conditional_block_grad_op doesn't run. I found there are about 10+ optimizer ops. **To be simpler, I just assign output gradient of the conditional_block_grad_op to 0 in this PR**. But it can be further explored whether we can make optimizer ops like sum_op to support uninitialized input tensor because theoretically we can speed up without the assigning in conditional_block_grad_op.

2. Infer parameter shapes during append_backward. I didn't know that all our parameters are in global block. When op_desc is inferring shapes at the sub-block, it may not know the shape of gradients of parameters whose shape information is at global block. I fixed it by inferring shapes of gradients from forward var.

This PR also did some code clean up:
1. Print the var name when sgd_op catches shape error so that it is easier to debug
2. Fix a typo: dicta -> dict

* open gc by default, test=develop

* fix test_train_recognize_digits and disable gc when ngraph is enabled, test=develop

* fix conditional_block op eager deletion bug, test=develop

* add some comments to reviewers, test=develop

Test PaddingRNN on V100 GPU device.

Test configuration: large model, padding mode (which is the mode using recurrentOp), one GPU.
                   
GPU memory (MiB):   6414 (this PR)     vs   6837 (without this PR)
Speed (steps/s):         10.28 (this PR)    vs    9.89 (without this PR)
 

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* wip simplify operator framework

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* done test=develop

* clean test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix deps test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix tensorrt build test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop