[cherry-pick] #22384 and #22371

22384增加了WITH_NCCL开关

22371修改了fluid依赖lite的commit id

* add half_async in the communicator
* fix DistributedStrategy

* add multiprocess for dygraph data loader, test=develop

* polish code & add safe gurad, test=develop

* refactor dygraph dataloader & add signal handler, test=develop

* fix member initializer compile error on ci, test=develop

* fix member initializer compile error one more, test=develop

* remove useless config, test=develop

* skip windows incompatible problem, test=develop

* add unittest for coverage, test=coverage

* add more exception unittest case, test=develop

* deal with signal handler coverage, test=develop

* polish code & add signal handler tests, test=develop

* deal with coverage ci problem, test=develop

* split data loader test & coverage ci fix, test=develop

* remove test_imperative_data_loader_with_exception, test=develop

* remove singal process except test case, test=develop

* add exception tests again & remove sample list test, test=develop

* split normal and exception unittests to diff class, test=develop

* polish doc for use_multiprocess effect in static mode, test=develop

* add NotImplementedError for multi optimizers used on multi-places . test=develop

* assert error only if num_devices>1. test=develop

* set test_optimizer_in_control_flow in CMakeLists for using multi-GPU.test=develop

* add special way to add distribute vars， Update Pyramid hash op

* move sequence op unittests to a separate folder
test=develop

* add missing CMakeList file
test=develop

* fix relative path import
test=develop

* fix relative import
test=develop

* use sys.path.append
test=develop

* add fake init for the trainer, fix large memory hold in the trainer
* do not merge recv vars from a remote endpoint, test=develop
* add recv and save op, merge slice var in one op, save memory
* remove hsigmoid with pull sparse, test=develop

* set dim[0] to -1 if dim[0] < 0 and remove assertion to runtime, test=develop

* modify ENFORCE message, test=develop

* add validation for x.shape[0] > 0, test=develop

* add ut, test=develop

* support data_norm_op run in CUDA
* add two parameters sync_stats & summary_decay_rate
* add UT

* fix warnings oof gcc 8 compilation, test=develop

* fix boost::bad_get, test=develop

* refine PADDLE_ENFORCE, test=develop

* add launch_ps module so that we can launch a parameter server training job
1) a user can specify worker_num and server_num
2) parameter server can be killed after all workers exit
3) unit test is added
test=develop

* make search_compute support avx only

* clean search_compute.h

* rename sse_axpy to avx_axpy

test=develop

* update CMakeLists.txt

test=develop

test=develop

* refector geo sgd & communicator

* treat broadcast as non-initial, test=develop

* rename the class name

* rename the class name, test=develop

* unify DataLoader APIs, test=develop

* integrate iterable CPU Dataset, test=develop
add GPU dataset supporting, test=develop

* add unittests for dataset, test=develop

* add more docs to dataloader apis, test=develop, test=document_preview

* refine doc, test=develop

* refine doc again, test=develop

* increase coverage, test=develop

test=develop

* make test_pe_seresnext serial
test=develop

* Increase test_pe_seresnext time limit on MAC
test=develop