cherry-pick prs

#36568
fix fc fuse compat problem

#36610
support lite xpu choose device id

#36010
update lite branch

#36628
add file exists check

* update xpu version

* cherry-pick 32842

fix compile problem on FT

* Update Paddle-Lite commit hash.

* Add BF16 data type to VarTyp protobuf message.

* update ResetHolder, test=develop

* add TensorShare for lite engine, test=develop

* tensor data changed from copying to sharing, test=develop

* supports xpu runtime, test=develop

* fix code styles, test=develop

* change the cmake and apis of lite engine, test=develop

* change the cmake of lite engine, test=develop

* change the function in op_teller, test=develop

* correct the commit-id, test=develop

* modify lite commit id to support var_conv_2d cascade. test=develop

* modify lite commit id. test=develop

* update external lite, test=develop

* switch WITH_TESTING to OFF, test=develop

修改了依赖lite的commit id：lite支持了var_conv_2d的级联使用

- 添加了fluid-lite子图方式运行resnet的单测
- 修改了依赖Lite的git commit id