Add user-friendly error message in optimizer ops to give a hint about the position sensitive problem of run(startup_program) (#19605)

* add extra error message hint in optimizer ops

* polish format & delete useless change, test=develop

* extract init judue from shape compare, test=develop

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* wip simplify operator framework

* wip

* wip

* done test=develop

* clean test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix deps test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix tensorrt build test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

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* add check for opt op

* fix opt op
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* fix test fail
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* fix optimization doc
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* test=develop

* "add inplace attribute"

* "register inplace attribute"

* "change se-next model for memory-reuse"

* "fix typo"

* repick

* fix merge conflict

* "fix stupid error"

Do not use ctor

* Reduce line of codes.
* We can use virtual function for Maker now.
* The implementation does not care what maker holds, it is easier to
refactor later.

* init

* add some check

* add dist transpile logic

* add insert op for block

* init change get_pserver_program

* optimize code

* fix a bug

* can run now

* start to do table split

* start to process table gradient

* complete pserver part

* can send_vars now

* revert cpplint

* fix a bug

* optimize code

* move dist test to models

* revert the interface of distribute_transpiler.transpile

* fix prefetch_block

* optimize trainspiler code

* add comment to sum_op

* add warning log

* fix comment

* fix test_send_recv

* fix test_send_recv

* fix train with no distributed table

* optimize GetDims

Fix sparse update memory error for distributed training

* Move framework.proto to proto namespace

* Fix compile

* Fix compile

* Fix Compile

There are mainly following fixes:

- take `DeviceContext` as the template parameter of math functors and OpKernel instead of `Place`
- remove `eigen_device` interface in base class  `DeviceContext`
- remove `GetEigenDevice` interface in `ExecutionContext` and base class `DeviceContext`
- remove unused `platform::EigenDeviceConverter`
- rename `REGISTER_OP_GPU_KERNEL` to `REGISTER_OP_CUDA_KERNEL`
- rename `USE_GPU_ONLY_OP` to `USE_CUDA_ONLY_OP`

* Fix the latex comment syntax in sgd_op.cc

* Change \textunderscore to \_

* Polish the documentation for uniform_random and top_k ops

* Polishing more operators

* add sparse support for sum op

* typo fix

* fix gpu build error

* fix unittest error

* typo fix

* infer var type and shape in op_test

* follow comments

* fix build error

* bypass some unittests depend on NetOp

* support sparse output for lookup table grad op

* refine codes

* fix gpu build error

* fix lookup table grad gpu kernel

* fix ci

* fix ci

* fix ci

* fix bug in lookup_table_grad op

* fix bug in test_word2vec

* register double kernel for some operators

* set is_sparse=True in test_word2vec

* fix lookup table grad op CUDA kernel bug

* disable test_modified_huber_loss_op temporarily

* disable test_lstm_unit_op temporarily

They are public now

* Changing learning rate from attribute to input(float)
* Removing obsolete code

* init Infershape

* add static InferShape interface

* refactor add-op infershape

* add AttrReader

* add all maker's infershape

* add all InferShape

* add python infer api

* add VarDesc interface

* add python VarDesc and OpDesc interface

* update python code

* use infershape function to do shape inference

* clean code

* do not use pointer

* refine code of op_proto_maker

* add get_dims to VarDesc

* refine the code

* remove the dependency from operator to op registry

* remove OpProtoAndCheckerMaker from operator

* restore complete_add_op

* add shape_infer_impl.h

* code optimization

* remove const return value

* add fake BlockDesc class

* optimize code

* remove infer function in op_info

* move InferShapeContextImpl to operator.h

* optimize the interface of InferShapeContextBase

* add temperary interface of new infershape

* change add_op, clip_op, conv2d_op and activation_op

* change all operators InferShape

* fix SetDim

* update cos_sim_op

* update crop_op

* update lookup_table_op

* allocate tensor when call GetDim in InferShapeContext

* update modified_huber_loss_op

* update rowwise_add_op

* update mean_op

* update sequence_avg_pool_op

* typo

* remove old InferShape interface

* can compile

* fix or unit test

* clean code

* clean code

* remove const before InferShapeContext

* change InferenceContextBase to pointer

* rename RunTime to Runtime, code clean