[cherry-pick]fix bug in pool/conv/conv_transpose: UpdatePaddingAndDilation, _get_padding_with_SAME and conv2dtranspose_forward_naive. (#20997) (#21225)

* fix bug in pool/conv/conv_transpose:
    1. It should be stride[i] not stride[0] in UpdatePaddingAndDilation;
    2. fix bug of func  _get_padding_with_SAME in test_conv/conv_transpose_op.py;
    3. fix bug of the computation process in function conv2dtranspose_forward_naive.
    test=release/1.6

Currently, our tests run with 2 GPUs, the init time is absurdly long:
about 4s for each process.  Currently, we run each OP test on
different processes. This PR:

1. create cmake function py_test_modules which will generate the
Makefile that runs a list of Python unittest module in a single Python
process.

2. move all "python unittest compatible" (e.g., used the unittest
package, not just a regular python file). from fluid/tests to
fluid/tests/unittests.

3. cmake now will run all OP tests in fluid/tests/unittests in a
single process, except the time-consuming tests, they are separated
into different processes to utilize parallelism. Please make sure to
use the unittest package if you put the python test file in
fluid/tests/unittests

4. remove all exit(0) from fluid/tests/unittests/*.py, exit(0) is used
to disable unittest, we can not do it when running all tests in a
single process since it will terminate the process without running the
other tests. Instead, the test is disabled in
fluid/tests/unittests/CMakeLists.txt. FIXME is added for each disabled
item. Please disable the unittest from
fluid/tests/unittests/CMakeLists.txt, instead of adding exit(0) to the
Python file, for all Python file in fluid/tests/unittests/.

5. add an option WITH_FAST_BUNDLE_TEST. When OFF, will run the unit
tests in separate process so that they can be tested individually.

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