[cherry-pick]fix bug in pool/conv/conv_transpose: UpdatePaddingAndDilation, _get_padding_with_SAME and conv2dtranspose_forward_naive. (#20997) (#21225)

* fix bug in pool/conv/conv_transpose:
    1. It should be stride[i] not stride[0] in UpdatePaddingAndDilation;
    2. fix bug of func  _get_padding_with_SAME in test_conv/conv_transpose_op.py;
    3. fix bug of the computation process in function conv2dtranspose_forward_naive.
    test=release/1.6