* XPUPS Adaptation (#40991)

* Adapt XPUPS - 1st version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - update XPU PushSparse -  2nd version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - add XPU PullSparseOp - 3nd version - 3.25

* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by compilation - 4th version - 3.27

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* heter_comm update

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* Adapt XPUPS - use WITH_XPU_KP and modify wrapper kernel function - 5th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update pslib.cmake

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 6th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* used by minxu

* update heter_comm_inl

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 7th version - 3.30

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 3.31 update

* Adapt XPUPS - update kp compilation path  - 8th version - 3.31

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm.h 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 9th version - 4.1

* update hashtable. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 10th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1 19:30

* fix. test=develop

* update ps_gpu_wrapper.kps 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 11th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 12nd version - 4.2

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.2

* 4.2 update

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* update 4.6

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* 4.6 modify by compilation

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 13nd version - 4.7

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* update by pre-commit

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.12 update

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 14th version - 4.13

* 4.13 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 modify by merged latest compilation

* retry CI 4.14

* 4.15 pass static check

* 4.15 modify by gpups CI

* 3.16 update by gpups CI - modify ps_gpu_wrapper.h

* 4.16 update

* 4.16 pass xpu compile

* 4.16 retry CI

* 4.16 update
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* modify ps_gpu_wrapper.cc

* update
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* trainer_device fix and checknan tool for psgpu;test=develop

* disable show_one_table;test=develop

* ps gpu dump

* remove log

* pslib with cmake

* heter util

* vlog

* heter server test

* add dtor

* cmake

* pscore support heterps

* fleet cmake

* fleet wrapper

* macro

* solve conflict

* solve conflict

* add unitest

* paddle enforce

* unitest

* unitest

* unitest

* topo and memory performance for heterps; test=develop
* add trainwithprofiler in heter trainier; test=develop

* add topo aware

* resource.h

* topo aware

* format

* 　add heter box

* add trainer, worker, wrapper...

* format

* for ci

* format

* remove boost get

* boost & copyright

* rename

* 　rename

* format

* format

* format
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