[cherry-pick] faster build by reduce by-product, reduce linking library and fix compile warning of std=c++11(#22230)

* add some debug flags to auto growth allocator, test=develop

* add comments about auto growth, test=develop

* fix -Wno-error=sign-compare warning in gcc8

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* fix warning in distributed codes

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* use system allocator in unittests, test=develop

* fix op bugs, test=develop

* fix tensor copy bug when src and dst are the same, test=develop

* improve save and load behaviour, test=develop

* code cleaning, test=develop

* disable check_guards and update_guards in release version, test=develop

* fix compilation issue, test=develop

* add buddy_allocator speed test data, test=develop

* fix compilation issue, test=develop

* fix comment, test=develop

* update function names according to the google C++ style guide, test=develop

* tweak the test data format, test=develop

* move buddy_allocator_test_data to paddle/fluid/testdata, test=develop

* add accessor and mutator for Desc, test=develop

* refine err msg of out of gpu memory, test=develop

* refine err msg again, test=develop

* refine errog message again, test=develop

* follow reviewer's comments, test=develop

TemporaryAllocator is a singleton used for allocating memory for Cudnn. Since it is a singleton, we can delete it for better performance in memory.

We replace TemporaryAllocator by CUDADeviceContextAllocator and CUDADeviceContextAllocation, which uses stream callback to delete the memory allocated for the stream to avoid singleton.

Also added data_feed_proto to operator to fix CI in CPU compilation

* add retry_allocator for gpu, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments, test=develop

* follow huihuang's comments,test=develop

* change f,l in enforce.h to be file,line, test=develop

* increase code coverage by adding unittests, test=develop

* fix CMakeLists.txt, test=develop

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* replace part of PADDLE_ASSERT to PADDLE_ENFORCE

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* remove unused fallback_alloc_size_

* add unit-test of CUDAPinnedAllocator

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* fix gpu_info, test=develop

* fix reserving gpu memory calculation bug, add fraction=1 unittest, test=develop

* fix bug again for reserving size, test=develop

GPU allocation uses fraction of available memory, also fix the GetUsed without lock

* feature/auto_growth_allocator, test=develop

* add unittest of AlignedAllocator, test=develop

* try to turn on auto_growth to test on CI, test=develop

* fix segmentation fault in mixed_vector.h, test=develop

* add unittests, test=develop

* delete m, test=develop

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As title

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* remove attribute in Allocator::Allocate, test=develop

* fix travis ci error, test=develop