* update, test=develop (#29559)

* Disable gloo by default (#29805)

* update, test=develop

* update, test=develop

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* fix worker endpoints

* fix gloo wrapper for hdfs

* GPU fleetrun support gloo

* parameterserver fleetrun support gloo

* fix get server endpoint

* test=develop,test=document_fix, remove the out args

* fleet_util move to paddle.fleet
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* add heter ps mode

* code style
test=develop

* add with_pslib
test=develop

* unitest
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* test monitor
test=develop

* prepare trainer
test=develop

* code style
test=develop

* add timeout and http store in communication, add revert and confirm in fleet
* test=develop

* add GeneralRoleMaker which is for general usage
* test=develop

* add collective communication library in fleet to replace mpi
* test=develop