Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server (API add `fluid.contrib.layers.sparse_embedding` only) (#22957)

* Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server

* remove REPLACE_ENFORCE_GLOG compile option & add ci rule prohibit LOG(FATAL) using, test=develop

* remove ci test case, test=develop

* replace all LOG(FATAL) & polish message, test=develop

* fix typo, test=develop

* polish error info detail, test=develop

* fix -Wno-error=sign-compare warning in gcc8

test=develop

* fix warning in distributed codes

test=develop

* refector geo sgd & communicator