cinn_launch_op: optimize the overhead of preparing variables before executing cinn compiled program (#41777) (#41910)

cherry-pick #41777
* optimize preparation overhead before executing cinn compiled program

* rename pten dir to phi

* rename namespace to phi

* rename infrt pten dir to phi

* resolve conflict

* rename pten to phi in cmake

* revert all infrt change

* change needed files

* fix infrt failed

* fix inference failed

* add cinn_instruction_run_op for launching execution of a cinn instruction

* fix multi definition compilation error

* update cmake

* fix bug at infershape

* fix compile error due to lacking header file

* add a graph pass to share MemOptVarInfos of external variables into subgraph

* update pass name

* fix compile failed

* add share_mem_opt_info_to_subgraph_pass test

* share_mem_opt_info_to_subgraph_pass_test pass

* modify some codes for better style and more robust

* update cmake

* Added selected_rows and rw_lock to pten

* Renamed the unit test target to fix CI

* Removed Class SelectedRows in Fluid, changed include/cmake relationship, use pten::SelectedRows in Fluid

* Remove rw_lock.h,rw_lock_test.cc in fluid

* Use pten::RWLock and pten::AutoRDLock, fix CI

* Use pten::SelectedRows

* Use pten::SelectedRows

* Fix to pass NPU CI

* Use pten::SelectedRows, to pass NPU CI

* To fix NPU CI

* To fix NPU CI again

* optimize cache key

* add cinn cache key by graph address

* perfect cache key test script

* rename GraphHashProto to GraphHashStrategy

* optimize graph_serialize_str_ to graph_hash_val_ and other change by review advices

cinn_launch_op： cache scope and place on CinnLaunchContext to skip duplicate alloc/free callback construction

Fix Paddle-CINN CI

* Use a more appropriate `Compile` method in cinn_launch_op.

* Update the VizGraph method of CinnCompiler.

* Add resnet50 model training with CINN.

Add FLAGS_allow_cinn_ops & FLAGS_deny_cinn_ops for controlling op types used in training with CINN. (#36842)

* Update UT test_parallel_executor_run_cinn.py.

* Add FLAGS_allow_cinn_ops & FLAGS_deny_cinn_ops & FLAGS_cinn_ops_delim.

* Use the custom StringSplit function and remove the FLAGS_cinn_ops_delim flag.

* Add FlagController test.

* Apply lock to the cache_ only in CinnCompiler.

* Add VizGraph & ReadableKey method for CinnCompiler.

* Update the dot style of VizGraph in CinnCompiler.

增加CinnLaunchOp，负责执行Cinn子图编译的结果，要点如下：
1. 在子图划分的BuildCinnPass中，每个子图在原图中会被替换为该CinnLaunchOp，由它来调用Cinn进行子图编译、执行的功能。
2. CinnLaunchOp的输入/输出即为子图的输入和输出，另外增加`compilation_key`属性，它可由该属性key从全局Cache中获取子图对象、编译结果，该属性由BuildCinnPass在创建Op时进行设置
3. CinnLaunchOp功能实现的流程为：
        - 从全局Cache中获取子图对象
        - 从全局Cache中获取子图编译结果，未命中cache时进行即时编译
        - 根据编译结果的变量信息(数据类型、shape）初始化运行时数据，分配内存/显存
        - 将运行时数据打包为参数，调用cinn的可执行对象runtime program进行计算
        - 子图运行结果通过参数指针同步到paddle侧的tensor

* Init the functions of CinnCompiler.

* Add the unit test for CinnCompiler.

* Fix some compilation errors.

* Update the UT of cinn_compiler.

* Use Decomposer&OpFusion passes in CinnCompiler::CompileGraph.

* Update some comments.

* Uncomment some includes in build_cinn_pass.cc.

* Use refs instead of ptrs as returned types of FindGraph & Compile in
CinnCompiler.

* Use the merged CinnGraphSymbolization functions in CinnCompiler.