* Optimization grad merge performance (#29784)

* [fleet] combine amp and gradient merge, test=develop (#30086)

* fix assign_op_xpu concat_op_xpu warining (#30120)
Co-authored-by: Nliuyuhui <liuyuhui@baidu.com>

* [Kunlun] PR1:Support one Kunlun card training in parallel executor (#29337)

* [Kunlun] PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor (#29574)

* [Kunlun] bug fix of PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor  (#29926)

* add bkcl.so in whl for kunlun (#29947)

* [Kunlun] bug fix of PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor  (#29961)
Co-authored-by: NQingshuChen <qingshu.chen714@gmail.com>

* support use add instead of sum to do gradient accumulation

* add inplace addto pass

* add grad_add op and inplace addto pass

* remove debug code

* code refine

* fix bug when sereral sum ops inserts at same op_idx

* fix Flags type

* add addto attribute for conv3d

* fix ut

* code clean

* fix type

* support Baidu AI Accelerator
  * test=kunlun

* minor
 * test=kunlun

* support xpu op in separate file
 * test=kunlun

* update XPU error message and remove duplicated code

 * test=kunlun

* minor
 * test=kunlun

* minor
 * test=kunlun

* add new macro BOOST_GET_SAFELY & unittests, test=develop

* add different macro type, test=develop

* fix get macro type in executor, test=develop

* four macro part change backup

* using one macro for all case, test=develop

* revert attribute change, test=develop

* change to three func to solve gcc4.8 bug, test=develop

* polish some details, test=develop

* correct reader device index, test=develop

* fix async executor scope var initialization, test=develop

This PR enhances error messages of several API/OPs:

ParallelExecutor (python && C++)
Executor (python && C++)
StaticRNN (python)
IfElse (python)
cond (python)
split_lod_tensor (python && C++)

* Remove the NGraph engine from PDPD repository
1. Each operator was removed from the operator's directory
2. Each test was removed from the unittest directory
3. The parallel executor support was removed from the PDPD
4. The CMake file was removed from the PDPD
5. The NG flags were removed from the repository
test=develop

* Remove ngraph from:
1. Cmake file
2. Python file
test=develop

* Make optimizer consistent in dygraph and static-graph and remove some LOG-INFO

* sequential reader stage 1, test=develop

* fix ut, test=develop

* fix iterable=False reset bug, add some logs and polish code, test=develop

* inference feed partial data, test=develop

* Turn on keep_order=True for test, test=develop

* enhance ut to test more cases, test=develop

* test commit for reverting

* Revert "test commit for reverting", test=develop

This reverts commit 80aef42e.

* add ut of merged and unmerged results, test=develop

* add more uts for coverages and add en doc of api, test=develop

* follow comments, test=develop

* change note style, test=develop

* refine the profiler print test=develop

* update ScopeBufferedSSAGraphExecutor&AsyncSSAGraphExecutor&ThreadedSSAGraphExecutor&FastThreadedSSAGraphExecutor&ParallelSSAGraphExecutor&ParallelExecutor for fetching unmerged results.

* add the unit test for fetch_unmerged.

* update ut for multi-card and multi-cpu.

* add the error message and the user suggestion in FetchOpHandle. test=develop

支持不依赖nccl进行编译。[1/2]

多卡下，如果没有打开WITH_NCCL开关编译，多卡不能通信，则只能选择一张卡使用。
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

* fix ref_cnt pass, test=develop

* add cpp unittests to reference_count_pass, test=develop

* follow comments, test=develop

* polish code details, test=develop

* futher polish hint msg, test=develop

* remove the useless warning for user to avoid confuse test=develop

* fix memory reuse bug on feeding variables, test=develop

* add comments to reference count members, test=develop

* make leaky relu inplacable, test=develop

* force add unittests to pass coverage, test=develop

* update executor feed

* fix memory overlapping of fetch var (return of executor.run), test=develop

* fix wrong usage of ParallelExecutor in op_test, test=develop

* remove useless parameter and simplify code

* avoid tensor destruct untimely, test=develop

* add testcase independent of OpTest, test=develop

* remove legacy memory optimization codes, test=develop

* follow huihuang's comments,test=develop

* follow luotao's comments, test=develop

* first version memory optimize pass, test=develop

* remove move_tensor_sharing_pass, test=develop

* refine code comments, add unittests, test=develop

* turn off memory_optimize by default, test=develop

* follow huihuang's comments, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments, test=develop

* fix grammar error, add const qualifier, fix pass_test exception message, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments 2nd, test=develop

* feature/buffer_shared_inplace, test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* fix elementwise_add op cpu inplace and sum inplace bug, test=develop

* add unittest and debug log, test=develop

* fix parallel_executor scope bug, polish code, test=develop

* fix sum op, activation op, single_in_place_inference bug, test=develop

* remove kLocalExecScopeName, test=develop

* fix unittest,test=develop

* fix out_var first version bug, test=develop

* follow comments,test=develop

* update pe reduce config
test=develop

*  drop the local_exe_scopes of the previous parallel_executor
test=develop

test=develop

test=develop

* update execution_strategy option default value
test=develop

* fix doc error
test=develop

* remove nccl dep when the number of GPU is 1
test=develop

* update CPU_NUM config
test=develop